Breakups are never easy as it can take a toll on both the partners. The moment one of the partners understands that their relationship is not working out and decides that it is better to split ways, that realisation itself is quite heartbreaking.
Eventually, you break ties with your partner and part your ways, but the incidents and memories attached to them play over and over again in your mind.
Being overwhelmed by your intense feelings, you may end up stalking your ex partner, texting them or even calling them at times. And these need to stop, if you plan to move on.
We have curated five post-breakup mistakes that you need to avoid:
1. Jumping into a rebound relationship
A rebound relationship may help you to get over your breakup, but do you know that it can be a bad choice as well. There is a high chance that you will develop some liking for a person who shows even a small amount of care to you. Not only this but you may also find yourself in his/her arms for which you may regret later. You may have some expectations from your new partner and you may realise that he/she is not the one you wanted to have. Therefore, it is better that you give yourself time before entering into a new relationship right after your breakup.
2. Having a closure talk too soon
A closure talk means when two people come together to talk maturely about their breakup and say things that they would have said while ending their relationship. The closure talk usually consists of apologies and forgiveness. The closure talks can help you in leaving behind the grudges as well. Though having a closure talk can help you in being on good terms with each other, it can create further problems as well, especially if you still haven’t moved on. You may end up accusing each other and playing the blame game. Instead of being too eager to have a closure talk, it is advisable that you first give yourself some time and realise what happened and if you could have avoided it.
3. Stalking your Ex on social media
If you are busy stalking your ex-partner and his/her new partner over social media platforms, then you need to stop right there. This is because every happy post on your ex-partner’s account will work as a knife across your heart. You may need a strong pain to completely detach yourself from your ex-partner but there’s nothing wise in scrolling through your ex-partner’s pictures and posts and feeling acerbic. You may feel betrayed and this can really affect you emotionally and mentally.
4. Expressing your emotions on social media
Posting sad quotes and airing your grief online is hands down the worst post-breakup mistakes that you can do. To be honest, nobody is going to acknowledge your broken heart and therefore, by screaming about your heart break and accusing your ex-partner in an indirect way on social media won’t help you in moving on. It may make you feel better for some moments but this is not the solution to the problem. Instead, you can write down your emotions or speak to a trusted friend. This will surely heal your broken heart in a short period of time.
5. Isolating yourself from the outside world
We understand that you may want to stay hidden from the world with your puffy eyes and emotional breakdown. This can be absolutely fine for a day or two but if you are staying locked inside your room for over a week and are only shedding tears over your breakup, then this is one of the worst post-breakup mistakes that you can do. Breakups don’t mean your life has come to an end. You need to come out of your gloominess and live a normal life as you did before. Else, you may not be able to get over your breakup easily.
