The road to ever-after is riddled with loads of obstacles. Sometimes, the relationship you are in has to go through many struggles before you finally get to that stage where you can say that you are both finally happy and settled.
There will also be times when the person you are with, no matter how great he is, is in fact not the one for you. This just proves the saying that you have to kiss some frogs before you finally find your prince.
However, this begs the question: How do you know if he is just a frog or the prince you’ve been waiting for all your life? How do you know that your current boyfriend is worth keeping, despite all the hardships you’re going through in the relationship?
How do you know that you have to break up with this guy so you can finally move on with your life and hopefully have a shot at finding your prince someday?
To give you some perspective, here are some of the signs you need to know if it’s time to throw in the towel and break up with your boyfriend to move on to greener pastures:
1. His quirks are driving you crazy
Remember when you used to find it cute that he didn’t care about how he dresses himself? Fast-forward to right now. Does his sloppy appearance now irritate you and have you thinking, “Why won’t he dress himself better?”
When you find that these not-so-great habits of his that never used to be a big deal before, are now starting to get on your nerves to the point that it makes you crawl up the wall, he may not be your prince charming.
2. You bicker all the time about everything
Fighting can be healthy for couples. However, too much fighting about trivial things is bad. Constantly arguing and bickering about the littlest things stresses both of you out. And not only that, but it isn’t normal for a healthy relationship.
3. One of you is still hung-up on an ex
Whether it’s your ex or his or maybe one of you is still hung-up on and jealous of the other’s ex*, then what’s the point of being in your here-and-now relationship? It’s like you have an imaginary third wheel present between you all the time, a dark cloud looming over and dooming your relationship. You both deserve better than that.
4. You’d rather be somewhere else
When you feel like you want to be somewhere else than with your partner, that’s a clear sign. It’s not like you are actively avoiding him, but you’ve just come to this point where you can’t stand to be around him. It’s like for the past few months or even years, you have been unintentionally choosing other things over your partner.
5. You’re stuck in a rut
A relationship that isn’t going anywhere is doomed to fail. So if one of you is constantly putting on the brakes on developing the relationship, your connection with each other, or developing more intimacy, then the relationship won’t have a future.
6. You’ve broken up and gotten back together for the nth time
Breaking up and getting back together once or even twice is fine, but more than that is just an emotionally draining, dysfunctional cycle. And as such, the relationship will not go anywhere. End it.
