Ever feel tired and somehow annoyed when people ask you, “When are you going to have a partner?” or “When are you getting married?”
These kinds of questions could be asked too much that it often leads to you questioning your worth as a person. But that should not be the case, being single does not mean that you are undesirable or there’s something wrong with you.
Most of the time, it just means that it’s not yet the right time for you to be in a relationship. There’s more to life than waiting and finding your match.
You must always remember that you are a blessing and whatever you envision your life in the future can be a reality.
So stop having negative thoughts and do your very best to improve yourself. It all starts within you and not from anybody else. So, here are 5 reasons for you, to stop worrying:
1. You are not settling for less
The fear of being alone should not be your reason to date someone. It is a bad decision to just “settle” for it because it doesn’t only affect you but also the person you’re seeing. Stop hating yourself because you are alone. You shouldn’t base your worth by having a companion in your life. Learn to love every single part of your body and your life. Don’t base your happiness on temporary and external things – this will make your life much better.
The more mature you are the more you tend to look for someone who has the same thinking as you. This will lessen the chance of you ending up with someone who’s not mature enough as you are.
2. You get to spend more time knowing yourself
Instead of staying sad and lonely because you’re single, take this time as an opportunity to learn more about yourself. You will actually have the freedom to do what you want, like what food to eat, what movie to watch or where to go for a vacation. This is also a good time for you to spend more hours being with your family and friends.
Because trust me, when you’re already in a relationship, you will most likely spend more time with your partner rather than with them. So enjoy this time to take care of yourself and eventually, loving yourself more.
3. Having someone or being married does not cure everything
A lot of people will feel bad if a person who’s very successful is single. That should not be the case. You are capable of becoming whoever you want to be and whatever you want to achieve in your life with or without a partner.
Being in a relationship or getting married doesn’t mean you will become successful so don’t let those opinions make you feel bad and worthless about yourself. Focus more on your goals and everything will just fall into place.
4. Being single also has its benefits
Some people choose to be single because they enjoy this opportunity to live as they please. Being single gives them the sole freedom to choose where to live, what to eat for dinner and etc. Being single often means having fewer social obligations and you can most likely to pursue your hobbies and adventures that you can’t do when you get married or when you already have a partner.
People who stay single for life are often just as happy as those people who marry. They learn to live their lives surrounded by their friends, family, activities, and other factors that improve their life and happiness.
5. You’ll know more about what to prioritize
Your ultimate goal should not be entirely finding your partner. The thought of being in a relationship should be put aside first so that it can help you focus on other things or life goals you have that are more important. You should invest as well in your future and your emotional happiness above all else.
