Sometimes in life, we keep making the same mistakes over and over again, without learning a lesson, till reality strikes us.
And other times, some decisions are so hard, that we often end up feeling that we could have gone the other way. All we are left with then is regret.
Some problems keep on repeating until you learn your lesson. Life is long, and it is always better to learn from your mistakes, here are few lessons you could relate to:
1. You must have confidence
Successful people don’t only gain confidence after achieving success, but they gained success as they always believed in themselves. If you doubt your ideas and credibility, why would anyone else believe in you? It is obvious that in order to overcome all the obstacles in your way, you need to trust yourself to get out of your comfort zone and that requires confidence.
No one else is responsible for the decisions you make for your life, but you. They may try to advise you or influence you but they cannot force you to make them. The way you are living today is all based on the decision you made for yourself.
3. Busy is not always productive
Everyone is busy, yet not all of them are productive. Time needs to be used effectively instead of doing some similar tasks without any extra effort. You attend a countless number of meetings, without thinking much in advance on how to bring out better ideas in front everyone. The one who is productive will always be putting extra efforts into their work while being busy and if you realise it late, you are going to regret it.
4. Don’t be with people who drag you down
We tend to surround ourselves with people who inspire us or who make us feel better about ourselves, but many times we end up spending time with those who don’t appreciate us or who drag us down by insults. It is time to cut those people out of your life. They only make you feel worthless, and you cannot live like this forever.
5. Be willing to say ‘no’
According to research, if you agree to do things even if you don’t want to, you welcome more stress in your life, which is why, and you must be able to say no whenever you are not totally ready to do something you are asked to. You don’t have to be entirely rude, as you can run someone down in a polite way as well, and if they are mature, enough they’ll understand.
6. Avoid negative self-talk
Your self-doubts are your biggest obstacles in your way, and you must squash it as much as you can. Even if it is important for self-improvement, negative self-talk gains more power on your thinking and lowers down your self-esteem. They are not facts to wonder so much about, so whenever one crops up, stop and try to clear your head and ask yourself not to be so pessimistic.
7. “what if”
These thoughts are only a waste of time because you are wondering what could have happened. What has happened cannot be undone and wondering about it over and over again is only going to add on to your stress levels. Yes, you can plan for future strategies this way, but you need to be aware if it is causing you excessive worry.
8. Stop seeking perfection
No one can be perfect, and we have our bunch of flaws we cannot overcome. This doesn’t mean that we keep wailing over it and hate ourselves. We should live with who we are and be happy about it because we all are unique in our ways.
