What happens when you’re so into a guy that you totally blow it all on the first date?
If things were disastrous, there’s still some time to recover and prove to him that you’re actually worth another shot.
Here are a few ways to get back on his good side. Check hem below!
1. Acknowledge that you weren’t your best self
Maybe you had an awful day at work before the date or something awful happened that caused you to project onto him. He might see you as being kind of an angry person, but in your heart, you know you screwed up. Take all the blame if it’s your fault and let him know how apologetic you are for the way things started out. Then forgive yourself.
2. Don’t think about it
If it was an embarrassing time — like you got a little too rambly or spilled a glass of red wine on yourself — don’t keep replaying it in your head. If you do, it might make you think that you’re not worth dating when you absolutely are. Give yourself some closure on the situation and let your date know that you acknowledge it was a bad time, but forgive yourself and start fresh.
3. Give him space before you plan a second date
Don’t send him 90 billion apology texts, since that comes across as being a bit needy. If the date was really awful based on things you did and said, he might need some time to get over it.
4. Let him know that you understand if he wants to end things
He makes up 50% of this relationship so he has a right not to give you that second chance. It’s his choice to make. If he agrees to go out again, try to make light of it but don’t keep bringing it up.
5. Analyze your relationship with alcohol
A lot of first dates go badly since one person gets a little too drunk. If that was the case here, you may need to evaluate how and why you drink. Maybe you pregamed before the date because you were nervous, or maybe you just had a bartender with a really strong pour. Whatever the reason, if things got weird since you weren’t all there, try to see if you’d be living a happier life sober. As a bonus, you’ll feel a lot more present and in the moment.
6. Plan something he’d like to do
Is he an outdoorsy guy? Maybe it’d be nice to go on a hike or even a long walk around the park. Think up a fun date that’s incredibly different from that first one. If it’s a nice day, there’s another reason to take advantage of the weather.
7. Don’t talk about the news
The news is really depressing. Hopefully the two of you share similar political beliefs, but if not, you might end up having a worse date than the first. Try to keep it light.
8. If the first date was awful due to things out of your control, try to joke about it
Sometimes it’s just not your night. If you did everything right but picked a place that gave you both food poisoning and then got stuck in traffic during a thunderstorm on the way back, it’s OK to joke about it. Say something like, “If we overcame that, we can probably overcome anything.”
9. Have a back-up plan just in case
It’s never a bad thing to be extra prepared. Put a lot of thought into what you want to do and what to do in case it all goes sour. Try not to waste too much time thinking up alternate suggestions because that’s always a little frustrating for everyone involved. Show your date that you’re prepared and determined to make sure this date goes perfectly.
