You know what you want your future to look like and you shouldn’t settle for anything less.
Nobody likes wasted time and no one wants to give their heart to someone who isn’t worthy.
Here’s how to avoid relationships that lack long-term potential:
1. DON’T EXPECT HIM TO CHANGE
It’s important to have certain expectations of your partner, but waiting for them to turn into the person you believe they can be is a waste of your time. You’re basically betting that they’ll turn into your dream partner rather than being with who they are. If they’re not the person you want them to be right now then they’re not the person for you. Waiting around for someone to change is a lose-lose game. It’s unfair for them to be expected to change and it’s unfair for you to wait around for something that definitely won’t happen.
2. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF
I think we’re all a little guilty of trying to impress a love interest before we’ve even assessed if they deserve our attention. Be yourself from day one. This avoids the kind of insecurity that leads you to morph into the person you think your partner wants you to be. Make it clear who you are and what you want in a relationship, which gives your partner the choice to decide if it’s a relationship they want to be invested in.
3. OBSERVE HOW HE COMMUNICATES WITH PEOPLE
Paying attention to how he communicates will help you spot the red flags before you become deeply invested in the relationship. I don’t recommend spying on him, but do pay attention to how he treats his friends and family. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat and talk to people. If he treats you well but he treats other people around him in a way that you know is not right. Do not think you’re exempt from that treatment he may just be showing you what he thinks you want to see.
4. ASK YOUR FRIENDS WHAT THEY THINK OF YOUR PARTNER
Asking for opinions from the people that know you best may not be the easiest thing to do but in the long run, it’s really rewarding and may help you avoid wasting your time. If they all think that your partner is right for you then it’s definitely a green light. Getting their opinions should be the pivotal point in which you decide whether you’ll stay in the relationship or end it. Even though friends can influence your decision, in the end, it’s down to you. You’ll have to trust and be honest with yourself.
5. BE MORE SELF-AWARE
Analyze your own behavior in your partner’s presence. Do you see a positive or negative change within yourself? Do you feel confident or insecure in your relationship? Are you being true to yourself or are you trying to live up to his expectations? Taking the time to analyze how you act around him will give you the clarity you need to see if it’s a relationship beneficial to your well-being.
