So many people look for answers when they want to learn how to be happy in a relationship. Exactly how can you be happy in a relationship?
Having a partner and being in a relationship should add something to your life. It should make your life better, happier, and more fulfilled. In other words, there should be happiness in a relationship.
However, media, movies, books, and songs often show us a wrong idea of what it is to be truly happy in a relationship. Additionally, they can make us doubt if what we have is really what makes us happy.
Here are some of the signs that you are really, truly in a relationship that makes you happy:
1. YOU WILL FEEL CONTENT MOST OF THE TIME.
Constant butterflies and extreme happiness in seeing your partner is not only impossible, it would also be exhausting. Once the first three months or so of a relationship pass, the “in love” feeling transforms into a feeling of contentment and happiness that is more calm and lasting. That is not to say that you won’t still have the butterflies and excitement. They are still there. They just show up less often, and what you have in between is a calm type of happiness … true happiness in a relationship.
2. YOU ENJOY WATCHING SHOWS AND MOVIES TOGETHER.
Although at the beginning of a relationship you often go out, if you only go out and be around other people all the time, it can be a sign that you are not that happy in your relationship. If, however you feel like you can also be together, just the two of you and share enjoyments like a series or movie together, you have a better chance of staying together and creating a happy fulfilling relationship.
3. YOU FIGHT PRODUCTIVELY.
A relationship without fighting is impossible. Having strong discussions or arguments about things that you are passionate about is important and even healthy. The difference between a healthy fight and an unhealthy one is what you want to accomplish. If you just want to be right and have your partner be wrong, that is a sign you are more into yourself and not as much the relationship. If you and your partner have an outlook of both of you against the problem, it is much more likely that the issue will get resolved and you will not have to deal with it over and over again.
4. YOU MAKE EACH OTHER WANT TO BE AND DO BETTER.
It is never your job to change someone else or to be changed by someone else. However, in any healthy relationship, being close to another person helps you bring out the best of yourself. Not via force, or manipulation. But in a healthy and productive and almost natural way.
5. YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP IS GOOD AND GETTING BETTER.
The way you are intimately together does not always mean you are in a happy relationship. However, poor intimate relationships that neither of you is willing to work on is a sign that you are not happy in your current relationship. Sexual compatibility is also important. You can work on techniques on how to make your partner weak in the knees but you cannot keep pretending to like things you don’t. A little bit of adjusting is okay, but if you have to change your entire sexual identity to please the other person, you may want to keep on looking.
