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7 signs he’s using you to get over his Ex

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Have you ever wondered whether or not your boyfriend is totally over his ex?

If he’s doing anything to make you question the relationship in the slightest, you may inadvertently be playing the role of the rebound.

Here are 7 signs he’s using you to get over his ex:

1. He’s still bitter about his ex

Not only does he still talk about his ex, but everything he says about her sounds resentful — a huge sign that he’s not over the relationship! You can tell a lot about a guy by the way he talks about a past girlfriend. If he says something like, “I don’t think she ever really loved me,”  he’s still hurt by how the relationship ended and most definitely not over it. He’s talking about his ex because he’s still thinking about his ex — could he be any more obvious?

2. It’s been a few months and you still haven’t met his family

Not only have you not met his family, they may not even know you exist. If his mom calls when you two are together and he doesn’t mention you even though you’re literally sitting only inches away from him then his family knows nothing about you. If he isn’t telling his parents about you, it’s because he knows deep down that you aren’t going to be around long. Ouch!

3. The relationship isn’t romantic

Is the relationship more physical than emotional? Go ahead and take that as a sign. You can tell that you’re a rebound just by paying attention to your sex life. If the sex feels detached and consumes a good majority of the relationship, it’s rebound sex. Now, don’t mistake zero inhibitions sex for rebound sex — they can both be wild and intense, but only one of them helps someone forget about their ex (at least for a few minutes… maybe even seconds).

4. He doesn’t make plan for the future

If a guy is really interested in you, he’ll make plans for the future. He may not be getting down on one knee proposing, but he’ll say small things that will make you know he’s not planning on breaking up with you next week. If he isn’t talking about the future, it’s because he’s not that serious about you. He knows that you’re temporary  and he’s treating you as such — wake up and smell the a-hole in the room!

5. He’s way too eager to take things to the next level

He went from 0 to 100 real fast! The relationship started off casual and then out of nowhere he flipped the script. Now he’s texting you all the time and expecting you to see him every single day. This shouldn’t be a bad thing, but it seems a little fishy — probably because it’s not genuine. It’s too early in the relationship for him to be in love with you when he doesn’t even know you yet. If he’s overly enthusiastic about the relationship, it’s because he’s actively trying to convince himself that he’s happy. Don’t settle for someone who has to force their feelings for you.

6. You feel like you’re being compared to his last girlfriend

He may not outright compare you to his ex, but you feel like he’s secretly judging. It’s like if you do something his ex wouldn’t do, he automatically thinks less of you. He may even throw out suggestions for how you should live your life. Interestingly enough, those suggestions relate directly back to his ex. If you feel like he’s replacing you with his ex-girlfriend, it’s because he is.

7. His ex is still around

If they just broke up but they’re still hanging out, you need to chuck up your deuces and go! I don’t care if their breakup was mutual (which it never is) — they shouldn’t be spending time together! And more importantly, you shouldn’t be with someone who can’t stop seeing their ex. Think about it. Why would they want to hang out together right after a breakup? Obviously because they still have feelings for one another!

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