It’s not an easy feat to survive a breakup and be strong throughout it. Most often, things don’t work out the way we envisaged it.
What’s important is to look at why things didn’t work out between the two of you and respect the decision that you have come to.
However, if you choose to reconcile with your ex, there still could be some things that might not be the same. Here’s a list of them below:
1. You may feel disconnected
Many a time, after a raging fight with your friend or your sibling, you don’t feel like talking to each other. You feel that discomfort or the hesitation to make the first move. It is the same with couples who reconcile after a breakup, except there are plenty of pent up feelings and emotions that you didn’t express to each other. This could be one of the reasons why you may feel disconnected with your now partner. Give it time.
2. There are trust issues
Once you have had your heart broken or hurt, it is difficult to build the same bond with the person again, at least in most cases. As human psychology goes, you find it more and more difficult to trust someone who has already broken it once fearing you will go through the same curve again. It’s natural to feel a certain way. Again, give yourself enough time and don’t push yourself over it.
3. You are cautious with your feelings
You tend to curl up emotionally and not express what you feel openly or as much as you did before. Re-working on a relationship is equally emotionally consuming as a breakup as you are consciously putting in more efforts to not repeat what went wrong and this might take a toll on you. Discuss with your now partner about how you feel. Don’t set unrealistic expectations, take it as it comes.
4. Intimacy can be a hiccup
Emotional intimacy is one aspect of the relationship while physical is another. For some, getting physically intimate with your reconciled partner can pose a huge problem. Therefore, if you think you are not ready for it, keep calm. There is no rush to get intimate with your partner as soon as you reconcile. Work on other factors that need your attention and later consider getting intimate.
