Relationships demand commitment and some degree of compromise. That is definite wisdom passed down the ages by people who have successfully managed to hold steady relationships.
But in a world so stressful, there are endless things that can form a ridge between you and your partner.
There really is no formula to make a relationship work. There is, however, some basic logic to enhance bonding with your partner.
Hence, we present to you some of the basic things you need to take note, not during, but before you get into a serious relationship.
Here are the things you need to take note before getting into a lasting relationship:
1. Begin with you
It’s easy to have certain expectations from a partner. We want others to mould to our desires. From one’s= interests to physical appearance, there happens to be a whole load of things people are “looking out” for. What we fail to look at is what are we offering to the relationship? How often do you find asking yourself, “am I really offering as much as I am expecting from this relationship?”
2. Make your life amazing for your partner
If you lead a boring life, how can you expect your partner to have fun? You need to get out of the rut and build a life you enjoy living. Be passionate about the things you love, and the excitement of your passion will rub off on your partner, too.
3. Past learnings create an avenue for a golden future
If you are going to repeat the same mistakes, your relationship is most likely to meet the same fate. Analyze your previous relationship and be honest about the parts where your habits were to be blamed.
Fixing these issues before springing up those three magical words is important. These micro-changes aid the longevity of a relationship and improve your own outlook towards a positive life.
4. Leave the past behind
You have to accept the fact that your partner had a life before you. There are things they did, and decisions made they thought were right at that moment. Their decisions do not define them.
5. Cut some slack for yourself
Before you actually get into a relationship, you got to ask yourself if you are really ready for it, or are you getting into it because you are desperate. Answering this question is essential as you would have better clarity moving forward. Same holds true for marriage
6. Learn from those around you
We idolize individuals around us all the time. Everyone wishes to be a leader like Steve Jobs, or a genius like Elon Musk. It may help us become better people. In a similar way, learning from couples around us also helps.
When you learn from successful couples around you, you realize that things can be worked out with healthy communication and a tad bit of compromise. Not absolute sacrifice, but mild compromise.
