6 things to do if your ex messages you unexpectedly

Life has moved on, you are finally happy in your space without your ex and he or she messages you out of the blue. What do you do?

That shock and pain is bound to be triggered again especially when it ended on a bitter note.

Should you be cold, warm, act as if you do not care, what must your next step be? Here are 6 important things you must do if your former love has started messaging you.

Remember that an ex is an ex for a reason. If you let them enter your life again, it may upset a few dynamics you have worked hard on after the break up. You do not owe them any explanation whatsoever and if it hampers your happiness, then you do not need that toxicity back in life.

That urgency to respond quickly to the sudden message should never be on your agenda. Take your sweet time because you have a life. Reply calmly and take time to gather your thoughts.

In case you have moved on and someone else is there in your life then you must consider his/her emotions and feelings as well. Before you reply, weigh it all and then respond. Put yourself in their shoes and then text. Do not hide it from your partner either unless it is a white lie that can’t go wrong.

If you are planning to respond and speak to your ex, you must make sure that you are on the same page. Have an honest and open conversation right from the beginning. If the comfort is not there, let the other person know.

Are you planning to go back to him or her? What is the real reason? Make sure your reason to get back to a person who was out earlier is not momentary. The reason you broke up in the first place should not be forgotten, especially if it can bring you back to square one where the downfall began and hampered your peace.

Closure is something we all need to move on with peace, to rest that broken heart, but talking to an ex for the same is a big mistake. The closure you need is an issue from your end. You have to find it yourself and get on with your life. The second round of conversation over the same may just make things worse for you.