No one is born insecure or underconfident. Rejection, criticisms, unkind words is what gets to a person, leading them to feel or think less of themselves.
Children can too be prone to instances where they lose self-esteem and become insecure.
That said, parents should always be there for their children, to uplift them and to make them feel more wanted, more loved.
No matter how stubborn and inconsolable they are, here are some things you can do to help your insecure kid and make them more confident in life.
1. Locate the cause of their insecurity, offer to help
Parents must communicate with their children at all costs. In case of an insecure kid, it becomes all the more crucial. Only when you hold conversations will you be able to locate the source of their insecurity. Once you do that, you can offer to help them, enhance their problem-solving abilities and even come up with different ways to help them feel more confident, uplifted and less insecure.
2. Teach them to love themselves
No matter how many mistakes your child makes, guide them through the process and tell them what they can learn from each of those mistakes. Do not let them indulge in self-pity and guilt, which may contribute to their insecurities. Teach them how to love themselves and do not let people’s criticism, negative emotions and comments get to them.
3. Keep an eye on their social media movements
With the digital world taking over our lives, social media platforms can be a great contributing factor to your child’s insecurity. Whether in the form of critical comments, negative judgements or trolls, your child can get affected by any of these things. That said, make sure you know what’s going on in their personal as well as social life. However, do not disrupt their space and make them feel uncomfortable.
4. Make sure you’re kind to them
A good parent never uses harsh words to straighten their children out. Rather being kind and showing unconditional love is how you win them to your side. When it comes to an insecure child, being critical of them and nagging them for all their efforts is what puts more load on their mind. That said, instead of using unproductive, cruel ways of parenting, acknowledge their efforts and push them to be better.
5. Build a safe, affectionate space at home
The best way to help your child overcome their insecure nature is by creating a safe, affectionate space for them at home. Do not burden them with the challenges you’re facing as a parent, rather shield them from all the negative energy. While making them aware of the realities of the world and preparing them for future competitions, also be compassionate towards them.
