If you’re in a new relationship or in a long-term relationship that seems to have fallen into a rut, you may be wondering how to help your partner feel loved and accepted.
This article is about being the best partner you can be and giving you ideas of how you can help your partner feel the love you have for him.
By caring about your partner’s needs, wants, and desires, you can bring happiness into both of your lives.
With the right tools, you can foster a positive relationship with your partner – a relationship that he will value and wouldn’t want to let go.
Below are effective ways to make him worry about losing you:
1. Be spontaneous
Being unpredictable and spontaneous every once and a while can be fun for you and your partner to experience new things together. When he gets home from work, take him out to his favorite restaurant. Instead of the predictable weekend activities, do something unusual and fun. Surprise him with his favorite drinks in the fridge, or suggest a trip that you would both enjoy.
2. Express love daily
People express love differently and knowing how your partner likes to receive love can be beneficial. You can show love in many ways, beyond saying “I love you.” Please give him a back rub after a long day, cook him a nice dinner, and take the time to listen to his thoughts and feelings. There are a million ways to show you care that will make him feel valued, loved, and supported.
3. Be open and honest
Honesty is a must for any good relationship. If you want to foster healthy communication, be open about your feelings. Honesty isn’t simply not lying. It’s speaking up when something is wrong. It’s telling him when you’re feeling insecure and why. It’s letting him know everything about your life and your life together. Being open with your partner can give them insight into who you are and what’s important to you.
4. Have good communication
Good communication is also important for a healthy relationship. Communicate with your partner often and productively. Even when something seems small, keep the lines of communication open. Not talking about issues can often lead to larger arguments in the future. Communication isn’t just about talking to your partner. It’s making sure you’re understood and that you understand your partner as well.
5. Make compromises
Be prepared to compromise. Try not to worry about who is right or gets their way, but rather what is best for both of you and the relationship as a whole. By working as a team through conflict, you can instill trust in your relationship. Though it may not always be easy to find common ground, it can be incredibly rewarding.
6. Cultivate positive qualities
Positive qualities are kindness, being affectionate, being patient, being friendly, and understanding to help your partner feel loved and accepted by you. By treating him with respect, you can help your partner feel like they can be authentically themselves. Though it can be exciting to be infectiously positive, everyone has bad days. It’s not your responsibility to force a smile on your face if that isn’t how you genuinely feel.
7. Take care of yourself
You may not always feel like dressing up or putting on makeup, and that’s completely okay! Taking care of yourself goes way beyond how you look physically. By taking time to be independent, practice self-care, and do things that make you feel good, you are taking care of your mental and emotional health. The better relationship you have with yourself, the more you can offer a relationship.
8. Accept his friends
Never try to separate your partner from his friends. Especially, friends, he’s had since long before you were together as a couple. You don’t have to like his friends, and you don’t have to spend time with them, but they should be respected and accepted. Accepting his friends means you accept that he has interpersonal relationships he wants to maintain.
9. Make yourself his best friend
At the same time, make yourself his best friend. Be available to offer comfort and discussion when you feel emotionally able. Sometimes it’s as simple as being there for support if he’s going through a tough time. Making yourself available to him when he needs you will help him feel loved and accepted in the relationship.
10. Handle conflict together
Disagreements happen between couples all the time. It’s important to pick the right times to face conflict and to do so in a respectful manner. It may be difficult to recover if you say hurtful things to your partner in a moment of emotional intensity. By allowing your partner to share their feelings, you give them the space to feel open and honest with you. Remember that you two are a team. Any disagreements should be handled together to find a solution and not to “win.”
