You meet great guys, but they always seem to leave before the relationship really gets started. You even have a hard time keeping friends. Is it you or them?
The problem could actually be you. You still deserve love, of course, but here are the signs you’re a woman who’s difficult to love.
1. You don’t love love yourself
Think about it for a few minutes. Do you honestly love yourself? You’ll never be able to make a relationship work if you don’t know your worth and cling to it with all you’ve got. The more you recognize and assert your own value, the easier it will be to accept that others want to love you too.
2. Everything comes before love
Of course you’re busy. We all are. But when everything in your life comes before love, there’s a problem. You have to make time for friends and relationships. All that hard work to get to the top means nothing if you’re always alone and have no one to celebrate with. Think about your priorities and spare some time for love. It’s not just difficult to love a woman who insists she has no time to be loved, it’s downright impossible.
3. You never believe those three little words
A clear sign you’re difficult to love is when “I love you” makes you see red, and not in a good way. For some reason, you just can’t believe anyone actually means it. The thought that someone is lying to you makes you angry. Even if a they’re telling you the truth, you don’t want to hear it. You’re distrustful because of past experiences and trauma, but that shouldn’t determine your future.
4. Compromise isn’t in your vocabulary
You shouldn’t have to give up everything for love. You will have to make some changes, though. If you refuse to compromise, you’re not going to be easy to love. Doing something as simple as trying a new restaurant or going to an event that’s important to the guy you’re dating is just part of being in love. Meet people halfway sometimes or watch love pass you by.
5. You think you’re perfect
In other words, you’re a diva. I hate to break it to you, but you’re not perfect. You have flaws too. Thinking others should bow down to your perfection just means others are going to walk the other way. Be more realistic and realize you have some not-so-wonderful qualities. That doesn’t make you unworthy of love, but it does mean you should be a bit more humble when judging others.
6. You’re not into sharing
Do you bottle everything up? Have you been with a guy for several months and the deepest thing you’ve shared is your favorite color? Love requires a little more sharing than that. You can’t expect others to love you when you refuse to let them in. Vulnerability is scary, yes, but without it, you’ll never be able to have deep and fulfilling relationships.
7. Cynical your middle name
Cynical women are always difficult to love. A certain level of cynicism is fine, but too much is just unhealthy and pushes any loving prospects away. Give people a chance once in a while and you might just find you have a reason to be less cynical.
