You and your partner got married ten long years ago.
After being married for so long, you feel like you’ve fallen into the same routine in terms of your sex life.
Routine is the right word for it because with work getting in your way, you’ve got to schedule it.
You’re not sure how to spice up your sex life but you feel like you need to do something soon. You don’t want the passion to fall out of your relationship.
We can help you with that. Keep reading to learn how you can make your time in the bedroom better.
1. Change things up
When you’ve been married and living together for a while, it’s easy to fall into the same old same old. It works and it gets you where you need to go but predictability isn’t exciting or sexy.
Try to shake things up a little bit. Explore new positions, buy a few sex toys for couples, or add a blindfold into the mix. Whatever you need to do to make things interesting.
2. Don’t be afraid to act like lovestruck teens
When two people are dating and even when they first get married they’re all over each other with kissing, cuddles, touching, and holding hands. After being together for a while though, they fall out of this lovestruck stage.
No matter how busy you get, take the time for a little physical intimacy. Keeping the flames of romance alive will help the two of you get closer in the bedroom as well.
3. Talk to each other
Sex isn’t only about the physical act. You’ve got to communicate with each other. After all, if you don’t talk about what you’re into how can you please each other.
You’re married so you should be able to talk about your deepest desires with your partner. If you’re feeling a little shy about opening up, set the mood.
Light a few candles and play some romantic music on Spotify. Start the conversation small by talking about things unrelated to sex. Save that talk for when you feel a little more comfortable.
4. See a therapist
Have you tried all these steps and are still trying to figure out how to make your sex life better? It may be time for you and your partner to go talk to a sex therapist.
They can help you get out of your rut by helping you address your problems and educating you about sexual development.
