Have you ever wondered why you’ve been single for a long time despite trying so hard?
No, it’s not really others’ fault but certain qualities within you that are restricting you from finding love.
You may feel ready to be in a relationship but in all honesty, you might have some reservations about dating that’s unconsciously stopping you from committing to someone.
Here are some reasons why you’re still single even if you’re trying hard to date someone.
1. Feeling undeserved
Your low self-esteem issues might still cause you to feel undeserving of someone’s love. Chances are if you’ve made a mistake in your previous relationships, your guilt takes over completely, even if that’s a matter of the past. Don’t let your shame come in the way of finding someone you deserve.
2. High standards
It’s always wise to be too choosy because not everyone is going to fit into your standards. And if they are pretty high, your potential partner will eventually get tired of having to meet your expectations. Whether the idea of high standards has been passed down from your parents or somebody else, it’s time to let go of your unbelievably high expectations if you have any.
3. Major trust issues
When you’ve been hurt pretty badly in your past relationships, it can be difficult to trust someone. It is hard to trust a new person after someone else has broken your trust completely in the past. Your inability to trust a person becomes so difficult that you keep losing out on prospective relationships.
4. Sabotaging new relationships
You tend to compare your current relationship with your past ones, making it difficult to cope up with situations. The previous fights and arguments constantly make an appearance which may anger your partner even more. After all, bringing old issues into new ones isn’t going to do you any good but will only further sabotage your relationship.
5. Trauma
If you’ve faced any emotional, mental or physical trauma in your life, it may be hard for you to accept and let new people into your life. Escaping traumatic events isn’t an easy thing to do. You may feel the same incident might occur again, making it difficult for you to see and understand love in a positive way. To battle this with a professional approach, consult a therapist who can guide you towards freedom from these negative emotions.
