6 ways your partner may romantically manipulate you

There’s a fine line between being romantically possessive and manipulative.

A person in love will hardly be able to distinguish it but it’s necessary to identify the symptoms of romantic manipulation.

This is where the person who is romantically involved with you, acts or talks in a certain way that showcases their extreme manipulative behaviour towards you.

They may seem perfect from the outside but may be problematic in reality. Here are clear signs your partner may romantically manipulate you.

Your partner will spare no chances to make you feel guilty about the smallest of matters. They will say something that makes you feel bad and at the next moment, justify their love for you to cover up the insult they just threw at you. This will make you feel guilty about not living up to your partner’s expectations.

They love you so much that they want to have you all to themselves. Your partner will make a long face if you tell them about your evening plans with your friends or a small trip with your parents. They will immediately try to create unintentional obstructions to keep you from spending time with other people.

If you ever confront your partner about their erratic behaviour, they will quickly convert to a victim who will only make you feel sorry for themselves. They will say things like, “it’s all my fault, I’m so sorry that I disappoint you every time.” And then, you may feel pity and stop telling them anything, let them have the win in the situation.

Your partner may utter ‘I love you’ too soon in the relationship, making it seem obligatory for you to also say it back. They will want to fast-pace the relationship to make it exclusive to everyone else. Their behaviour may also make you feel guilty for not wanting to be on the same page, and so, you are unintentionally forced to move fast as well. You may feel that you are being dragged into a relationship.

Chances are high that your partner will give you the silent treatment and refuse to acknowledge the fights or arguments. They will stay silent, and won’t put any effort into making things right if you don’t do things their way. They are more likely to end their silence only when you give in to their demands.

Gaslighting is when a person confronts the other about something but instead, the conversation is later directed to the person, questioning their perception of reality. If you chose to confront your partner about a lie they have blatantly said, they will try and turn the blame towards you, questioning your sense of reality. They may even say, “you’re being crazy” and this leaves you with no option by to apologise to them.