To be sane and “normal” we all have to struggle as when the rollercoasters of life hit us, our mental strength is always giving involuntary tests.
However, it is all about our attitude towards life that shapes us. There are certain habits too that determine how positive or negative we can get and they need constant check.
So, to make sure you do not become a bitter person, here are 5 mental habits that you must keep tabs on.
In case you are doing them, now is the time to refrain and mull over some of your actions.
1. Unforgiving
Everyone, including you, makes mistakes. To be human is to err, remember? This is when your ability to forgive steps in. You have to let it go because life is too short to hold grudges. The more malice you have for someone, you dig deeper into that negative abyss of yours and bitterness starts reflecting in your actions and words. He or she wronged you, call it out. Communicate or do anything to not let it dominate your life. It happened, you accept it, acknowledge it, but do not ponder over it so much.
2. Overthinking and underestimating
So you made a mistake, what is the guarantee you won’t repeat it again? If that thought comes often to your head, then you are definitely becoming sour. You may have failed once, but it does not mean that you will fail again or always. Simply give it another approach. Refrain from underestimating your positive capabilities. Let it shine through. If you control then how will the good come out of the box?
3. Being hopeless
Some people feel hopeless and dull when things are not going as planned. It is alright, all of us have that panic mode on in our heads but feeling hopeless is the biggest mistake you are making. If you feel hopeless you will talk and have only negative thoughts. It becomes a habit and it reflects on your face. Take therapy, get out of the house, look for loopholes as nothing is foolproof ever! No matter what the situation is. Be positive and that would be half the battle won. Count the good that you have and think about how so many do not even have that much!
4. The standard bar
Do not keep expectations from others when you are yourself, not that person. Even if you are a little like that, how can you expect the other to be similar? He or she may have other strengths, right? You need to get more realistic and keep normal standards for others, otherwise you will always feel disappointed and that shall show on your face. You exude negativity when you have negative thoughts and this way you repel the people around you. Your constant criticism does you no good!