In life, we all go through different seasons. And as we experience these different stages of change, we find that our relationships change with us too.
For example, you will find that now you look for different values when choosing a partner.
This means that the current version of you will naturally be drawn to a partner with certain qualities who fits the new you.
This same change applies to friendships as well since throughout the years, you separate from certain crowds and embrace new people you can bond with now.
In friendships specifically, it can be very difficult to admit that you’ve grown apart. It’s even harder when it is someone you’ve known for a long time because it feels like you’re going through a slow breakup.
But either way, it’s important to be honest with yourself and accept the fact that you’ve changed. If you’ve felt the drift for some time now, these five signs could confirm that you’ve outgrown your friendships.
1. 22It now feels forced
We value the bond of friendships because they make us feel relaxed and happy. We can be ourselves and have effortless fun.
If at this point your hangouts don’t feel natural anymore, it’s a sign. You will almost feel like you have to force that bond to thrive when it’s just not naturally there anymore.
2. You have nothing to talk about
Close friends who are thriving together don’t usually struggle to find something to talk about. And even when you’re not talking, there is still a sense of peace.
The opposite happens when the friendship is slowly fading. There will only be a limited number of things you can talk about because now your personalities and values don’t mix that well. And, when there is silence, the tension and awkwardness is loud.
3. You have different priorities
Most solid friendships involve people who can relate when it comes to priorities. It’s highly unlikely that someone who is single, has no kids and goes clubbing for fun will feel connected to someone who is married with three kids and a fully booked schedule.
You might have started off with the same priorities when you were younger but now things have changed and maybe that is why you can’t relate easily anymore.
4. You barely miss them
The other thing you will notice is that you now don’t have that excitement to see or call them as much. Years ago you couldn’t wait to catch up and hang out as much as possible but now you only remember them when they pop up on social media.
This is a sign that you don’t miss them and they probably barely think about you either.
5. You only bond on nostalgia
Nostalgic memories are some of the best memories. However, it’s not really a good sign if you find that old memories are the only thing that’s keeping you together.
This shows that the new versions of you aren’t connecting anymore which is why you’re finding it hard to have a flowing conversation about your current lives.
