Contrary to the belief that sex brings two people closer, sex is also used as a tool to get over emotions and situations.
We are no stranger to revenge sex or rebound sex, and a few might have used physical gratification to get over their emotional turmoil.
Such an act can bring momentary relief, but it will only make your remorse worse. Here’s why you should not use sex to get over the following situations.
1. To get over an ex-partner
In our attempt to get over a failed relationship, we sometimes become desperate to try anything, including irresponsible physical relationships. However, what we forget is, it might bring some momentary relief, but how long can a person pursue sexual rampage just to forget an old love? Also, what about the emotions of the other person with whom you are just having empty sex? Sex is not the solution to your emotional turmoils post a break-up.
2. When angry
According to experts, we should avoid engaging in any emotional activity when we are angry because anger itself is a strong emotion. You may end up hurting your partner physically or emotionally when you have sex in a state of anger because you might not be aware of what you are doing or saying when your temper is flared.
3. Under peer pressure
It’s natural to feel like an outcast when all your friends brag about their sex life and you are the only virgin in the group. Such a situation may force you to make some irrational move to lose the V-tag, as a result of which you might end up having sex with a person you never intended to and later regret the decision. It’s alright to take your time before you have sex for the first time but it’s wrong to have sex under peer pressure.
4. To keep someone happy
Not many would admit, but people do have sex with a partner just to keep him or her happy. Even when we are emotionally detached from our partner, we still keep the physical relationship going because we hope that it will somehow mend the broken ties. Don’t use sex to heal a broken relationship. Rather, the focus should be on fixing the real problem which is driving both the partners away.
5. Don’t use sex for professional gain
Now, this is a debatable topic but most of us are aware of how people use sex as a tool to climb the professional ladder. If you are stuck in a professional rut, use your skills and dedication to get out of it. If you use sex for professional gain, you would not only lose respect of your colleagues (yes, office affairs are the worst kept secrets!) but also end up jeopardising your own career.
6. Don’t do it just to create an image
Believe it nor not, a lot of people use sex to build an image of being a sexually appealing person. They do it just to be popular among friends and people of the opposite sex. And to keep that image intact, that person wouldn’t think twice before engaging in a sexual encounter. But such an approach can lead to frustration and guilt in the future.
7. Mindless sex
Mindless sex, as the name suggests, is when you have sex without any emotional attachment or attraction. Different people have different reasons to engage in mindless or empty sex, but whatever the reason might be, sex without emotions or feelings cannot be a fulfilling experience. Remember, sex is not just about physical pleasure, it is a body, mind and soul enriching experience.
