Although many couples consider this day to be the most beautiful day of their lives, weddings are often a source of stress and sleepless nights for them.
A former professional bridesmaid found out what it’s like to organise a wedding from scratch. She participated in the organisation of 125 weddings, during which she observed the behavior of future spouses.
The founder of the Bridesmaid for Hire company, Jen Glantz, reveals what she has learned during her work and advises what mistakes not to make when organising a wedding.
What do newlyweds regret most often?
Some things may surprise you!
1. It’s worth saving on this
“When the wedding is coming to an end, I always ask brides and grooms what they could have done differently. The first thing almost every couple says is how much money they spent,” reveals Glantz.
As the woman emphasises, newlyweds planning the ceremony often have the impression that they need much more than necessary. In such a situation, couples are advised to carefully consider expenses and precisely define the budget for each wedding element, such as flowers, decorations or dishes served during the wedding.
“If you save a few thousand dollars, you won’t regret having 25% fewer flowers or one less snack at cocktail hour,” he argues.
2. No time for a meal?
Glantz also emphasises how important it is for the young couple to find time to rest and eat a meal. As it turns out, she repeatedly witnessed situations in which spouses, absorbed in the organisation of the wedding, completely forgot about their needs.
“Make it a rule that you and your partner spend at least five minutes eating before greeting guests,” she advises. Thanks to this, the young couple will be able to enjoy the wedding meal without remorse, and therefore be sure that they will not experience hunger pangs during the first dance.
3. Together, yet apart
“After seven years of work, I began to realise couples rarely spend time together at their weddings. One person usually greets the guests and the other is on the dance floor with friends,” said Glantz.
To avoid this type of situation, establish an action plan with your spouse. It is worth participating in everything together and sharing responsibilities. This will not only guarantee much better organisation, but will also help you avoid unnecessary stress.
4. Unwanted gifts
Many couples also complain about unwanted gifts they received from family members. What to do in that case?
According to Glantz, it is worth making it clear to guests that the spouses do not need additional bedding or a set of intricately decorated cutlery. Instead of these types of items, the newlyweds can mention what would really give them pleasure and be useful in implementing their joint plans, such as a dream trip or making an important purchase.
5. Don’t forget about yourself and your partner
The biggest mistake a young couple can make on their wedding day is excessive concern for the guests and the course of the wedding. The accompanying stress means that the newlyweds will no longer enjoy the fun they have been waiting for for so long.
“When planning your big day, make sure you and your partner have a list of things that are important to you and are non-negotiable,” she said. “This way you can be sure that the guests’ opinions will not influence the wedding you have always dreamed of,” he added.
