5 ways to approach highly sensitive people

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) are those who have a heightened sensitivity to various stimuli, such as emotions, sounds, lights, smells, and textures.

They make up about 15 to 20 percent of the population, and they have many strengths, such as empathy, creativity, and intuition.

However, they also face many challenges, overstimulation happens to them often and they are very overwhelmed by criticism.

HSPs often feel misunderstood and isolated by others who do not share their sensitivity.

Therefore, it is important to know how to approach them in a respectful and supportive way. Here are some tips on how to do that.

HSPs need more time and space to process their feelings and thoughts than others. They may also have specific preferences and needs for their physical and emotional comfort, such as avoiding loud noises, bright lights, or crowded places. Respect their boundaries and do not pressure them to do something they are not comfortable with. Ask them what they need and how you can help them. For example, you can say, “I noticed you seem tired. Do you want to take a break?” or “I know you don’t like spicy food. Do you want me to order something else for you?”

HSPs are often good listeners, but they may not feel heard or validated by others. They may have a rich inner life and a lot to share, but they may also be hesitant to open up for fear of being judged or rejected. Listen actively and empathetically to what they have to say, and show genuine interest and curiosity. Avoid interrupting, criticizing, or giving unsolicited advice. Instead, use reflective statements, such as, “It sounds like you are feeling…” or “I can see why you would think that…” to show that you understand and respect their perspective.

HSPs are often highly creative, insightful, and compassionate. They can bring a lot of value and innovation to various fields and domains. They are artists and creatives. They can also be great people to have around as they are highly loyal, caring, and supportive. Appreciate their strengths and contributions, and acknowledge their efforts and achievements. Express your gratitude for them often and watch them bloom like a flower in spring. You can say, “Thank you for being there for me. You are such a kind and generous person.” or “I really admire your work. You have such a unique and original vision.”

HSPs are often perfectionists and self-critical. They may take negative feedback personally and feel hurt or ashamed. They may also dwell on their mistakes and failures and have difficulty moving on. Be gentle and constructive with feedback, and focus on the positive aspects of their performance or behavior. Use the sandwich method, which is to start with a compliment, then give a suggestion for improvement, and then end with another compliment. For example, you can say, “You did a great job on the presentation. You were very clear and confident. One thing you could do better next time is to make more eye contact with the audience. But overall, I was very impressed by your work.

HSPs are often curious and eager to learn new things and improve themselves. They may also have a strong sense of purpose and passion for what they do. Support their growth and well-being, and encourage them to pursue their goals and interests. Help them find resources and opportunities that can enhance their skills and knowledge. Celebrate their successes and milestones, and cheer them up when they face challenges or setbacks. For example, you can say, “I’m so proud of you for finishing that project. You worked so hard and it paid off.” or “I’m sorry you didn’t get that job. You are very talented and qualified. Don’t give up. I’m here for you.”