4 things s*xting reveals about you and your partner

Ever since smartphones have come in the picture, it’s made it easier for everybody to stay in touch with their partners, even when they are away.

These smartphones have also enabled people to express their thoughts and feelings through text messaging.

This gave birth to people using texting to convey their sexual desires to their partners and soon the term ‘sexting’ started to sound familiar.

Most couples have started to rely on sexting each other, especially those in a long distance relationship .

So it becomes essential for you to understand how the way in which you communicate by your phone can affect your relationship.

There is a connection between sexting and the way you in which you feel attached to or interact with your partner. Securely attached couples describe their relationships as involving trust, friendship and happiness. Avoidant individuals describe a fear of closeness which is why they feel nervous when anyone gets very close to them. Anxious ambivalent are the kind of people who describe their love life as full of emotional extremities, the desire for reciprocation with their partner and love at first sight.

The research on sexting and attachment style indicates that people who send sexually explicit messages to their partners and who like to initiate sex through texting are also the ones who tend to display either anxious attachment or avoidant styles with their romantic partners. People with anxious attachment styles engage in sexting as a hyperactivation strategy. This only means that they are compulsively seeking protection and proximity. People with avoidant attachment style use sexting as a deactivating strategy. This means sexting meets their sexual needs, but it also keeps their partner distant from them.

People in established relationships very much engage in sexting but the levels of reported sexting are quite lower than that of younger adults. Research says that just 12% of people in established relationships engage in sexting. The reason behind it could be due to couples being less likely to participate in risky behaviour than younger adults.

Studies found that people who reported greater relationship well-being are more likely to send some kind of sexual messages to their partner. To sum it all, the way in which you send sext messages reveal about your relationship with yourself more than you may think.