Finding out that your partner has been unfaithful is heartbreaking at any time, but discovering this just days before your wedding is devastating.
Emotions will be high, and your mind will be flooded with questions about what to do next.
While every situation is unique, here are a few steps to consider if you find yourself in this difficult position:
1. Take a step back and breathe
First and foremost, give yourself some time to process the situation. Your emotions will be running high, and it’s important not to make any rushed decisions in the heat of the moment.
Step away from the chaos, breathe, and allow yourself a little space to reflect on what’s just happened.
2. Talk to them (When you’re ready)
Confronting your partner is inevitable, but make sure you’re calm enough to have a productive conversation. Ask for an honest explanation of what happened.
Listen to what they have to say, but remember that this conversation is for clarity, not justification. You deserve to know the truth.
3. Reach out to a trusted friend or family member
You don’t have to go through this alone. Talk to someone you trust—a close friend or family member—who can offer you support during this emotionally charged time.
They can offer perspective, and provide emotional comfort as you decide what to do next.
4. Reflect on your relationship
Take time to reflect on the relationship, not just the betrayal. Has this been a one-time incident, or is it part of a larger pattern? Is this something you can forgive and work through, or do you feel that the trust is irreparably broken? Think it through.
5. Decide whether to postpone the wedding
One of the hardest decisions you’ll face is whether to go through with the wedding or call it off. Postponing or cancelling a wedding is an incredibly personal choice, but if you feel uncertain, it’s okay to hit pause.
It’s better to take time to heal and reflect rather than to enter a marriage filled with doubt. It’s your day, and if you’re not ready, you don’t owe anyone an explanation or a wedding.
6. Give yourself permission to walk away
If you feel that trust has been irreparably damaged and staying in the relationship is no longer an option, permit yourself to walk away.
It will be painful, and it may feel overwhelming to cancel a wedding so close to the big day, but your peace of mind and long-term happiness are more important than pushing through with a wedding out of obligation. It’s your life, and you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and secure.
Take time to process your feelings, gather support from loved ones, and make the best decision for you.
Whether you decide to confront the situation head-on, postpone the wedding, or walk away entirely, prioritise your emotional well-being and trust that you’re making the right choice for your future happiness.
