Leaving a toxic or abusive relationship is a very complex process because it is not only the physicality which is involved here but various emotional challenges too.
And so, it requires a lot of emotional support from the loved ones and the society in general.
In this article we’ll shares some reasons why people don’t easily leave toxic or abusive relationships:
1. Low self-esteem and learned helplessness: People who stay in abusive relationships either have had low self esteem from the beginning or over time, abuse can erode a person’s self-worth and make them feel incapable of surviving independently. They may internalize the negativity they’ve been subjected to, leading to a sense of helplessness or resignation.
2. Social and cultural pressures: Societal expectations, religious beliefs, and cultural norms often discourage people from leaving relationships, especially marriages. People may fear judgment, shame, or ostracism from their family or community if they walk away, especially if they have children.
3. Trauma bonding: Hot and cold behaviours are common in abusive relationships- They are not abusive 24/7, due to a cycle of abuse and affection, where the abusers periodically shows kindness or remorse. This intermittent reinforcement strengthens the emotional attachment to the abuser, making it hard for the victim to break away.
4. Hope for change: Holding on to a hope that their partner will change or that the relationship will improve, especially if the abuser apologizes, promises to do better, or shows remorse. This cycle of abuse and reconciliation can create an attachment that’s difficult to break.
5. Fear of reprisal: In many abusive relationships, there’s a genuine fear of retaliation if the person tries to leave. Rejection can be hard and Abusers may threaten to harm the victim, themselves, children, or pets, making the victim feel that staying is safer than leaving.
Understanding these reasons can surely help provide better support for individuals struggling with this decision as it’s not an easy one to make for sure.
