Actress Brenda Ngxoli opens up about her abusive baby daddy
Award-winning actress Brenda Ngxoli has made a shocking revelation about the abuse and financial ruin she endured at the hands of her child’s father, Samphiwa.
Taking to Twitter, she detailed how he repeatedly beat her, locked her up, and left her in deep debt.
“This is my child’s father, Samphiwa, who has not seen or met her. Proof I got a protection order against him. If anything ever happens to me, NEVER LET HIM TAKE HER,” she wrote, recalling how he once told her, “Yide Ufe Ndizokonwaba” (Just die so I can celebrate).
Brenda revealed that by the time she escaped in January 2022, she had lost financial control. He had emptied her bank accounts, leaving her R200,000 in debt, and taken over two of her properties. Outside, he played the perfect gentleman, but behind closed doors, she suffered regular beatings and strangulation.
At one point, she convinced herself that external forces were trying to destroy their relationship, only to later realize that he was abusing substances. “I blamed a third force… kanti no uNkabi is mixing cough mixture with Fanta Grape,” she said, describing the aggression that followed.
Brenda gave birth alone in July 2022, taking an Uber Black to Morningside Clinic at 5 am. Despite the support of a few friends, she continued living in fear of Samphiwa. Less than a week after childbirth, the abuse resumed. Even after seeking help from family, she found herself alone.
Her revelations come months after opening up about her abusive mother. Now, she has accepted that those she trusted most never truly cared for her. “All along, my mother and sister never loved me. I’ve always just been a cash cow to them,” she confessed.
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