Thobile ‘MaKhumalo’ Mseleku addresses tense moment with Musa Mseleku on Uthando neS’thembu

A recent episode of Uthando neS’thembu left viewers talking after a tense exchange between polygamist and reality TV star Musa Mseleku and his third wife, Thobile “MaKhumalo” Mseleku.

As the conversation sparked strong reactions online, MaKhumalo has now opened up about the pressures of living out parts of her marriage on television.

According to the reality star, audiences often form opinions based on what they see on screen without always understanding the full story behind the scenes.

“When people watch the show, they analyse it in the way they see and understand it. I only wish people would try to understand situations better before assuming they know exactly what is happening,” she said.

Away from the drama that frequently unfolds on television, MaKhumalo says her real focus is her family and the values she wants to instill in her daughter, Mpilo. Faith, she explains, plays a major role in how she approaches motherhood.

“My parenting style is guided by faith,” she said. “I grew up in a family that values respect, humility and believing in God, and that has helped shape the way I raise my child.”

She also acknowledges that raising children today requires a different mindset compared to previous generations. In her view, children are exposed to more information and experiences than ever before, which means parenting must adapt.

“Our children are not growing up the way we did. They are more advanced and exposed to many things,” she explained.

“I try to parent with an open heart and an open mind. I don’t force her to follow my path because she is the author of her own story.”

Despite her visibility on one of South Africa’s most talked-about reality shows, MaKhumalo insists she does not view herself as a celebrity.

“I do not see myself as a celebrity. I see myself as a normal human being,” she said.

She added that understanding the temporary nature of television fame helps keep her grounded.

“I understand that the show will come and go. With or without it, I remain who I am.”

Being in the spotlight has also shifted her perspective on what truly matters. For MaKhumalo, fame and material success are far less important than personal peace and self-awareness.

“It reminded me that material things and applause are not the most important things in life. At the end of the day, you are still left alone with yourself,” she said.

She further reminded viewers that reality TV does not always reflect the full picture of someone’s life.

“What people see on TV is just a small part of who I am. A show is edited, and sometimes your story is shaped by many other factors.”

For those who follow her journey closely, her message is simple: stay true to yourself rather than trying to please others.

“You do not owe anyone anything. If you try to live your life trying to impress others or trying to be someone you are not, it will eventually cost you.”

Outside the public eye, MaKhumalo says she prefers a quieter life where she can recharge and reflect.

“I prefer a simple life,” she said. “Spending time away from the public eye helps me regroup and find my balance.”