Everyone dreams of a healthy relationship that is full of love, respect, and mutual understanding.
But unfortunately, many of us get into a tumultuous relationship that is characterized by the disorderly commotion, regular fights, and debilitating anxiety.
Do you feel that your relationship is moving in the wrong direction? Do you feel like your partner has robbed your sense of dignity?
There might be a sign that you should think about breaking your tumultuous relationship and starting a new normal romance.
1. Your fights are on repeat
One of the key signs of all tumultuous relationships is repeatable fights over the same things. Have you quarreled over the same issue two weeks ago, three days ago, and this morning? The chances are you will have similar fights in the coming weeks, months, and even years.
If you haven’t managed to resolve this issue yet, you can be sure that it will be the cornerstone of your conflicts in the future. You can console yourself that your relationship will get better over time, but the truth is that it will never happen.
2. You constantly manipulate each other
The tumultuous relationship is all about manipulation. Probably, you don’t even notice and realize those manipulations, but they are the basis of your relationship. Let’s consider an example.
Imagine your boyfriend hasn’t been answering your phone calls for an hour. Now he calls you back. What will you say once you pick up the phone? If your first phrase goes like this, “Hi babe, how are you?” you have a healthy relationship.
But if you start the conversation with phrases like this, “Why do you ignore my calls? Is your job more important than me?” you are a manipulator.
3. There is no trust in your messy romance
Does your partner trust you? Does he ask you where you go and what you will do tomorrow? Does he worry that you may meet your ex or someone who attracts you? The lack of trust is one of the main signs of a tumultuous marriage and relationship.
And what about you? Do you check your partner’s phone without his permission? Do you always ask him about his relationship with the ladies who comment on his social media posts? If there is no trust between you and your partner, you have zero chance to build a happy future together.
4. Your relationship is overly dependent
The paradox of a tumultuous relationship is the following: you are not compatible, and you feel unhappy being together, but you are too dependent on each other to break up. Basically, you depend on each other like a drug addict dependent on drugs. The longer you stay in your relationship, the more toxic and self-destructive they become.
Are you addicted to your lover? That’s a red flag. Addiction has nothing in common with a healthy relationship. If you don’t have a deep connection on a spiritual level, your current relationship is not worth saving. They will not serve you and your long-term purpose.
5. Your romantic relationship affects your mental health
All relationships have ups and downs. So if you have quarrels with your partner once in a while, it’s perfectly normal. But if arguments have become an integral part of your relationship, that’s a huge problem.
Do you feel miserable when being next to your boyfriend? Do you want to cry every time he is screaming at you? Do you feel unhappy and broken inside? We have bad news for you. You’re in a tumultuous relationship, and if you don’t leave your partner now, that will further affect your psychological wellbeing and mental abilities.
6. You doubt yourself
A few years ago, you were proud of yourself. You were a self-confident person who knew how to set ambitious goals and how to achieve them. But everything has changed after you started this relationship.
Your partner has told you that “you are not enough” a million times, and it seems that you have started to believe it. He told you that you have no taste in music, you can’t choose a good wine, and you are not smart enough to get promoted at work. The more time you spend together, the more you believe that the lie he is telling about you is the truth.
It’s time for you to accept the fact that your rocky relationship will lead you nowhere.
7. You seek their approval
When you are in a tumultuous relationship, you can’t make even small decisions on your own. For instance, when you want to go out with your partner, you ask him whether you can wear a red dress. You ask this question not because you need a piece of fashion advice, but because you are waiting for his approval.
You are an adult now, and you can live your life the way you want. You can wear what you like, eat what tastes good to you, and visit places of your choice. If you discuss each step with your partner, waiting for his approval, it’s a warning sign that something is wrong in your relationship.
8. You truly hate some things about your partners
Hate is a strong word. And if you are not afraid to use it, it’s a bad sign. Do you hate the way your boyfriend behaves with your friends and family? Do you get irritated every time he slurps while eating? Does it make you start a fight?
True love is all about accepting your lover the way he is, including his habits, preferences, and behaviors. If you try to change your partner all the time, you are doing it all wrong. No matter how hard you try, he will never become the person you want him to be.
