It is widely believed that petty matters like money shouldn’t come between a couple.
Though it stands true in many cases, it’s not the complete truth. It is important to be financially independent, no matter if you are in a relationship or single.
And if the desire to be financially independent becomes a fighting point in your relationship, you need to think about it.
To help you with this, here is why you shouldn’t be financially dependent on your partner.
1. There will be problems with the power dynamic
It is true that whosoever has the money, has some level of power and authority. This stands true in every aspect of life, including relationships. When your partner has all the financial decision-making power, you won’t feel as though you have any say in the relationship.
2. There is a loss of control
When your partner makes all the money, they make all the big financial decisions. If you want to go out and treat yourself to some expensive new shoes, you will feel as though you are asking for an allowance from them. This loss of control over your own spending will start to feel as though you have lost control over your life.
3. You might feel as if you owe them something
If they do something that hurts your feelings but they bought every single thing you are wearing and the food you eat, you might feel as though you don’t hold any power in the relationship to say anything. Also, you might start to think that because they pay for everything, you have to go the extra mile in the relationship all by yourself.
4. You will have no exit strategy
Some people just fall out of love and if you happen to be in one of those relationships, staying with someone for financial security is unfair to both of you.
5. They could use it against you
Arguments and fights are bound to happen in relationships. In the event that you and your partner get into a big disagreement or fight, they can use the fact that they pay for everything against you. Because of this, you might feel as though you are forced to fold.
6. Your self-worth may suffer
Everyone likes to feel productive and needed. If you don’t work at all and are completely dependent on your partner for every single cent you spend, you might start to feel as though you are not good enough or doing enough in the world.
7. It will become difficult to feel like an equal
Not being able to contribute to your relationship financially will start to cause you to feel as though you are nobody. Good partnerships share the household duties, costs, and other chores that make up a life together. If you and your partner aren’t on an even playing ground, you will feel it.
