In today’s fast-paced world, online dating apps have become a refuge for many women seeking love.
However, modern dating often comes wrapped in a complicated mix of emotions, including hope, excitement, frustration and a healthy dose of caution.
If you’re new to dating apps, here’s a guide to help you navigate this terrain with clarity, confidence and care:
What works: Craft a profile that’s uniquely you
Your profile is your first impression, so make it count! Present your personality, interests and values clearly and specifically. Avoid generic lines such as ‘I love to travel’.
Instead, share a favourite destination, a meaningful memory or a quirky detail that reflects your true self. Include clear, recent photos that show your true self.
1. Take the lead with confidence!
If you find someone’s profile appealing, don’t hesitate to start a conversation. There’s no need to wait to be pursued. Taking the initiative puts you in control and sets the tone for the kind of connection you’re looking for.
Be upfront about your intentions and ask open-ended questions to spark meaningful conversation, rather than just surface-level chit-chat. Ask about experiences, values or passions. These are the kinds of conversations that reveal genuine compatibility.
2. Set boundaries early on
Whether it’s how often you like to communicate, how soon you’re comfortable with meeting in person, or how you prefer to be spoken to, being clear from the outset helps you to avoid emotional fatigue and confusion. Boundaries help you to date with confidence and protect your peace of mind.
3. Meet safely!
Once you’re ready to arrange an in-person meeting, prioritise your safety. Always arrange to meet in a public place and tell a trusted friend about your plans, including who you’re meeting, where and when.
Trust your instincts. If something feels off, it probably is. Your safety is never negotiable, no matter how promising the match may seem.
What doesn’t work: Vague profiles that blend in
A generic profile filled with clichés such as ‘I love to laugh’ or ‘I’m just seeing what happens’ won’t help you stand out or attract meaningful connections. When your profile lacks depth, you invite surface-level interactions.
4. Endless chatting without meeting
It’s easy to get caught up in endless messaging loops when trying to build a connection. Prolonged chats can create a false sense of intimacy and lead to unrealistic expectations.
5. Sticking to one platform
Not every dating app will match your personality or intentions. Some are geared towards casual flings, while others are geared towards serious connections. If you feel like you’re going nowhere on one app, don’t hesitate to try another. The right platform can make a big difference to the kind of people you attract.
Sometimes, it’s not about trying harder, but trying somewhere else.
What to watch out for: Catfishers and fake profiles
If a profile seems overly polished or vague, trust your instincts, it might not be real. Look out for inconsistencies or evasiveness. A quick video call is an easy way to confirm someone’s identity before getting too invested.
Inconsistent communicators
If someone’s replies are sporadic or vague, it often signals a lack of effort or commitment. Don’t waste time trying to decode their behaviour, consistency speaks louder than charm.
