How do you usually react to the problems in your relationship? Do you get angry? Do you feel frustrated and helpless? Do you easily give up? Or do you do something to fix whatever it is that is broken?
The truth is, only a few people actually know how to survive the greatest challenges in their relationships, while most end up saying goodbye to their love stories with a broken heart – and you should learn from this.
Whenever you are faced with the most challenging obstacles, a break up is not always the answer – even if you think that it’s the only way to stop your heart from hurting.
If you are currently caught between saving your relationship and ending it, this article will help you take the right step.
Here are ways to solve relationship problems without breaking up:
1. Accept the fact that you don’t have a perfect relationship
You’re not in a fantasy world and your love story will never be as perfect as what you read in fairy tales – and it’s okay. A part of fixing the problems in your relationship is recognizing that what you have is not perfect – and it doesn’t have to be.
Accept the fact that you and your partner are just humans capable of making the wrong decisions. Don’t end the relationship just because you did something wrong, or your partner took a wrong turn. Talk about the real issues, acknowledge that you do make mistakes, and learn from them.
2. Talk about the problems that are affecting your relationship
Communication is the golden key to making a relationship last, especially when trying to solve a problem that affects both of you. Talk about it first and try to understand what went wrong. It’s best if you discuss the issues together instead of trying to fight and play the blame game.
Even if it’s just one person who made a mistake, you both have a role to play in fixing it. You apologize, you forgive, you give second chances, and you learn from your shortcomings.
3. Never let the idea of breaking up enter the conversation
“Let’s just end this”, “let’s break up”, these are the phrases that can be the most painful part of trying to solve a relationship problem. No matter how emotional or hurt you feel, never let the idea of ending your relationship be a part of the conversation.
Don’t give up just yet especially if you still want to fix it. Even if you think that saying these things will make you feel better, it won’t. It will just add another thorn to an already aching heart.
4. Stop putting all the blame on your partner
When your partner does something wrong or when you are facing a problem in your relationship, consider these two possibilities: one, whatever your partner did may be a reaction of how you treated them, and two, you’re partly responsible for what happens next.
Evaluate yourself as a partner. Are you doing your part? What do you think are the factors that drove your significant other to make these mistakes? Could you have done something to prevent them?
5. Take a break and spend the time to cool off
When talking and conversations don’t make a difference, it’s time to rely on one simple yet effective solution: silence. There are just things that cannot be solved by using words. Sometimes, the comforts of solitude and silence can help couples calm their emotions and collect their thoughts.
If you think you both deserve a break from each other, it’s okay. Just make sure that when you’re finally ready to face the problem, you take them on together.
6. Be patient, be more understanding, and have a little more faith
When your relationship problems are further burdened by being in a long distance relationship, you have to rely on three important qualities: patience, understanding, and faith.
Don’t break up just because you are too impatient. Give your relationship a chance to adjust to an LDR, and most importantly, have a little more faith in your partner.
