Guys do some really weird stuff, particularly when around a woman they like. Making too many stupid mistakes while still in the courting process can end a relationship before it had time to get off the ground – and that happens all too often in today’s world.
However, If you’re going to put yourself out there, you’re inevitably going to make a few mistakes. Many of the most common dating mistakes can be easily avoided, provided that you’re aware of them.
Here are the 3 dating mistakes guys make and how to avoid them.
1. Show up without a gameplan
While you should never have a rigid plan for much of anything in life, you should at least have a concept of how you want your date to go. Have a loose plan for what you’ll be doing and where you’ll be going on the date, and it’ll show that you’re capable of making decent decisions as well.
How to avoid it: Ask yourself before you leave for the date “If everything goes perfect, what will we do on the date? Where will we eat? What will we do after? Etc.” Then go over the answers to the questions on your way there, so you can say them semi-assertively when the moment arises.
2. Lack confidence
Too much confidence can also be a killer, but coming up short on it is a lot more common. Confidence can be faked as well as anything, so there’s really no reason not to pretend to be at least remotely cool with yourself no matter how self-deprecating you really are.
How to avoid it: Whenever you start to get nervous around a date (or potential date), think of a song that makes you feel like you’re the greatest.
3. Expect sex on every date
Sure, sometimes you go out and end up getting some. Great for you, that’s really cool. Sometimes you don’t, and you have to realize that it’s totally fine. When you stop trying to stick it in every woman you’re mildly interested in, you’ll realize how much easier life is when not driven by constant expectations and desires for sex.
How to avoid it: Go into a first date (and often a second/third date) assuming you’re not going to get laid. Be prepared, just in case you do, but then at least it’ll be a pleasant surprise if it does happen.
