You have feelings for him and you want him to be able to reciprocate those feelings for you as well. You want him to obsess over you in the sense that he can’t stop thinking about you.
You want someone who makes you feel valued and important; someone who is really going to make you feel like you are loved – and all kinds of love come with slight obsession.
A lot of the time, it doesn’t really come by accident. You really have to put yourself out there if you want him to love and obsess over you the way that you want him to.
1. Make him wait a little bit before you reply to his texts
You don’t want him to think that you’ve been waiting by your phone the whole time just waiting for him to text you. It would seem to overeager. But you also don’t want him to think that you’re playing games with him by deliberately making him wait for so long before you reply to him. Moderation is key.
2. Make sure that you’re smart enough to make yourself memorable
You don’t necessarily have to have a doctorate. You don’t need to be a published bestselling author. But if you show him that you’ve got substance underneath all of those good looks, he’s going to love that.
3. Be a darling to his closest friends
Show him that you’re not just nice to him, but that you’re nice to anyone you meet. And let him know that integrating yourself into his social life won’t be a problem.
4. Exude self-love and confidence at all times
If you love yourself, you are giving him one more reason to love you. You are showing him just how lovable a person you really are. Be confident about who you are.
5. Choose your battles wisely
You don’t have to fight him on everything. Yes, you can have disagreements. But some fights are just not worth having – it could drive you two further apart.
6. Put in as much effort into the relationship
You don’t want him to be doing all of the work. You don’t want him to think that you’re being disinterested or distant. You might be turning him off to the idea of pursuing you if you don’t throw him a bone every once in a while. Show him that you’re willing to work for the relationship too.
7. Don’t try being anyone you’re not
If you try to be something that you’re not just to impress him, it’s going to backfire on you. Men are generally very good at telling when women are acting fake around them.
