4 hurtful things couples should avoid telling each other



Fights and arguments are an inevitable part of every marriage and when spouses fight, they end up saying so many things that make them repent later.

Sometimes, words have the power to hurt more than any action. Hurtful words when exchanged often, can turn any relationship into a toxic one.

Also, such words are not easy to forget and it might instigate the other spouse to use abusive or hurtful language as well.

Again, it’s not easy to have a marriage without its share of disagreements, so while fights are inevitable, what you can control is what you say to your spouse.

Here’s a list of things couple should avoid telling each other during a fight:

1. Why are you so selfish?

There are times when you feel that your spouse does not give you any importance and he always places his needs before yours. And when things aren’t working as per your plans, you might be tempted to blame your partner for that. While you might have many reasons to believe that your partner is behaving very selfishly, but you should avoid saying so during a fight.

2. Marrying you was my biggest mistake

Every married couple at some point in their lives has doubts regarding their marriage. During a fight, such doubts might rear its ugly head and couples might end up saying that the marriage was the biggest mistake. This is a very strong accusation and it will definitely cause irreparable damage to the marriage and hurt your partner for a long time.

3. I hate your mother!

We can understand how difficult it is to adjust to a new life and relatives after marriage. And it’s not uncommon for married people to share a love-hate relationship with their in-laws. Sometimes, the relationship that a person shares with his or her mother-in-law or a father-in-law can be very sensitive and in a fit of anger he or she might end up saying the unthinkable—’I hate your mother’ or ‘I hate your father’. We all love our parents, don’t we? And no matter what other people, including a spouse, thinks of our parents, they will always occupy a special place in our heart.

4. My job is more important than yours!

Love, trust, respect and reliability are the four pillars of any marriage. And when one pillar becomes weak, the marriage lands on shaky ground. Respect, one of the essential elements of a relationship, is very important and when one spouse says that he does a more important job than the other, he is not only disrespecting his spouse’s role and contribution in the marriage but showing superiority as well.

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