We’ve all heard tales of people who live their entire lives blaming the world for their misfortunes. We’ve also heard stories of how some people go through their whole lives not having really lived.
Don’t be a mere statistic in this sad pie chart of life. Whether it’s leaving your unfaithful spouse or switching departments at work, garnering happiness is an exciting process that can only be undertaken by you and you alone.
Be sure to take your life into your own hands and do everything you can to be happy. Isn’t that what life is all about anyway?
The thing about being happy is that it doesn’t require much. All the wealth, materialism, attitudes and mindsets that you’ve accumulated over the years mean nothing when it comes to being truly happy.
You can start by giving up some of the things holding you back from achieving peace, love and happiness, here are 5 things you need to give up to have a happier life:
1. Toxic people
Let go of all the idiots who belittle you, want to see you fail, make you cry, stress you out and make you feel bad about yourself. They are undeserving of your time and certainly don’t need to be in your life.
It may be hard to cut some people out, particularly if they’re close friends and family, but sometimes, you have to do what’s best for you. Down the road you can consider building bridges again, but until you can be completely happy with your life, focus on you and not on them.
2. Competitive nature
There’s nothing wrong with doing a great job, but once you start worrying about what others are up to and try to outdo them, that’s when things get ugly. Let go of your competitive nature for a calmer and happier life.
When you’re trying to outdo everyone around you, the pressure and stress of performing will get to you, and it’s only a matter of time before you crack. Not just that, withholding goodwill towards others and hoping for their failure is not a good look on you.
3. Yearning for money
I’m not going to be so ignorant as to say that money doesn’t matter. It really does, and the more you have, the more likely you will lead a comfortable life. However, that’s all it is. Money and comfort give you the illusion of happiness, as they command stuff that you don’t need.
Always remember that no matter how much money you have, you will never have enough, so there’s really no point in giving up your time and beautiful relationships to make any more than what’s going to offer you a comfortable life.
4. Need to blame
You have to give up your need to blame someone for whatever mishaps you meet. From arguing about who left the porch light on to whose fault it was in the breakup, stop pointing fingers at everyone, including yourself. Once you stop worrying about who to blame, you can start fixing the problem and moving on.
5. Waiting for the right time
Timing may be everything when it comes to certain things: stuff like crossing the street and getting to the airport on time require precise timing. However, in the grand scheme of things, if you want something, you have to make it happen now.
Don’t wait until the stars and moon and tides and universe align, because it’s not going to happen. All you really need is the feeling that it’s the right thing to do. Whether it’s quitting your job or getting married, now is as good a time as any, because as morbid as it may seem, you don’t know if you have tomorrow.
