Let’s get one thing straight right from the start. No one actually wants to be a nagging girlfriend.
We all want to be cool and collected and just have a perfect relationship where our partners just do as we say right away and we don’t have to nag them at all.
The world isn’t a perfect place, and men sure as hell aren’t perfect beings, no matter how much we wish they were. And that, in return, makes us act a bit weird.
But if you’re noticing that you’re becoming that person that constantly nags their partner and you’re thinking “Nah-ah, that’s not me, I don’t want to be this way” here are a few things you might want to take into consideration:
1. Quit telling him what to do
If you find yourself constantly telling your partner what he should and shouldn’t do – stop. Whether this is about house chores, food options or going out, it doesn’t really matter. Just leave him be for a while and stop wasting your precious time on that. Instead, focus on yourself and what you’d like to do. You’re not his mother, you don’t actually have to look after him. Let him come to you for advice when he inevitably finds himself in a situation that requires your help.
2. Consider the tone
This might be a hard pill to swallow, but at some point, we all forget that our partner doesn’t really owe us anything. So if you started nagging him for things, consider just rephrasing what you want and pose it as a polite request instead. You’ll be surprised how much politeness and manners can change his view on the situation, and you’ll still get what you want.
3. Don’t catastrophize the situation
If you’re annoyed that your partner keeps doing something that you’ve complained about multiple times, try to assess the situation rationally. Is this a big deal or just a small inconvenience. If he keeps leaving wet towels on the bathroom floor don’t try to make it seem like it’s a sign of his disrespect for you. It’s almost 100% likely that he’s not trying to send you messages or spell out “I have no respect for you” with wet towels. He’s just lazy and legitimately doesn’t think of this at all.
4. Don’t do things you don’t want to
We know some things in life just have to get done even if they’re not fun. But that doesn’t mean they have to be done by you. If your partner never takes out the trash or doesn’t do dishes or any other house chores, it doesn’t mean that it’s automatically your responsibility. Don’t take on too much and then complain that you do everything around the house and nag him to help. Just do what you want and leave the rest.
5. Find a compromise
If you’ve ever been in a situation where you feel like you’ve been nagging him for days to do something – it’s clearly not working. He’s tuning it out. Try to have a reasonable conversation and find a compromise. A lot of the time if you can come to a solution that benefits both of you – it’ll get solved faster.
