Many people in relationship tend to discuss things that happen in their relationship with their social circle, these often cause issues between them and their partners.
Some relationship topics are entirely inappropriate to talk about, even with a ‘BFF’ or some other perceivably trustworthy third-party.
Words have a way of quickly spreading, and, with the prolific use of social media, your “private matters” can quickly become public.
Also, consider how you would feel if your partner discussed private, intimate matters with someone else. Intimate relationships are special because of the intimacy – a physical and emotional connection shared by two people. Not three, not four. Two.
Below are some things that must never be discussed with another person when you are in a relationship.
1. Sex related issues
Discussing about anything relating to sex with your friends or a third party should be totally avoided. Examples of such topics include: how often you do (or don’t) have sex, any sexual fantasies, problems in the bedroom, and so forth. Engaging in conversation with someone else about your sexual experiences robs the relationship of its intimacy. No matter how big or small such details may be, conversing with anyone else about sex-related topics besides your partner is an act of disrespect. In cases where sexual issues arise, it is better to discuss with experts.
2. Flaws
It is highly rude of you to discuss your partner’s flaws with your friends or other people. When a man is made to feel less like a man, or when a woman is made to feel less like a woman, they’re deeply hurt and relationship problems can escalate quickly. None of us are perfect, and being part of a relationship does nothing to change this universal fact.
3. Financial issues
It is important to understand that financial troubles within a relationship are very common. As much stress that money-related issues may induce, they are solvable given the necessary knowledge. If a prompt resolution is essential, seek the advice of a financial adviser. Refrain from discussing the money problems that are nobody else’s business. They might end up discussing with others.
4. Anything confidential
Trust is the backbone of any relationship, when they discuss something with you in confidence and you tell others, it will definitely break them and you might lose them totally. You must never discuss things that are meant to be between you two with anyone.
5. Fights or heated arguments
Aside from altercations that involve physical or emotional abuse, relationship “fights” shouldn’t be discussed with others. Your close friend may indeed help “solve” the issue to a certain extent, but therein lies the problem – it takes your partner out of the equation.
