What makes a good man in a relationship? The answers to this question definitely vary, as each of us has a different concept of a “good” or “ideal” guy.
But men change some of their behaviors and attributes whenever they are in a relationship, as unlike when they are single, they have to look after someone and something, i.e. their girlfriend and the relationship they share.
But apart from individual concepts and ideals, there are traits that make a man fit in the “good” category when in a relationship.
In case you are still looking for that “good guy,” then here are some qualities to look for:
1. He observes chivalry
You have a good guy when he continues to practice chivalry. This means he takes the effort to open the door for you, or assist you when getting out of the car, holding your hand while you two are walking on the street, and lends a hand in carrying your things.
These may be little things but seeing his initiative to do to those actions means that he truly cares for you and that he knows you deserve nothing but the best. His intentions reflect in his actions, more than the presents and fancy promises most girls want to hear from their boyfriends.
2. He knows how to be patient with you
Another quality of a good guy in a relationship is when he knows not to tick you off. While it is common that you two experience arguments and misunderstandings, he would take the effort to be patient with you. He wouldn’t push you to your limit or test your temper because he knows these do not help resolve your problems.
He would give you space when you need it, but at the same time, he is on standby mode, meaning he is ready to come to you once you say so.
3. He is emotionally smart
Emotional intelligence is very important in a relationship, as this gauges your man’s ability to handle situations that test his patience and levelheadedness. You may want to date a guy who knows where and how to position his feelings during certain situations, and would think first before making a drastic action. Also, when a guy is emotionally smart, he would prioritize your feelings and welfare first before his, all because he loves and values you.
4. He listens
Another great trait to look for in a guy you intend to have a relationship with is his ability to listen. He must be able to not just hear you, but go beyond your words and understand your feelings. He may not always understand what you say, but he lends both ears when you need someone to vent your feelings on, or when you want to get your point across even if your emotions eat the best of you.
5. He celebrates your wins
You also know you have a great guy when he knows how to celebrate your wins. He is always proud of you and even more when you achieve success in your career and in your passion. He would brag about you to his family and friends, and would be there for you at all times to show his support.
He would also not feel intimidated (or at least keep the intimidation to himself) when it seems like you’ve achieved more than he ever did.
6. He respects your beliefs and shares your values
You may fall in love with a guy who doesn’t practice the same faith as yours, but if he knows how to respect your beliefs and even shares the values and principles you adhere to, then it’s a sign that your relationship is going to work. This is because relationships, and eventually marriage, is built on compromise, not just of love and romance. If you two can meet each other halfway and respect each other’s individual beliefs, traditions, and values, then your relationship will have a long way to go.
