8 signs you are forcing yourself to love someone



Some people enter a relationship for the convenience it brings. There are those who think it is the solution to loneliness, and some hope they can finally settle down with someone who loves them.

In addition, there are people who accept someone’s offer of love in order to move on from a heartbreak.

However, is it enough that you are loved by the person you are in a relationship with? How about you? Are you sure that you really love your current boyfriend/girlfriend?

Do you think you are only forcing yourself to love someone? Evaluate your heart with these signs:

1. You are not excited to be with the person

If you think of your dates as nothing but obligatory appearances, then you are probably not in love. If you love a person, there should be that excitement to spend time with him/her.

2. He/she does not inspire you

People in love are usually more motivated to be more productive. They want to reach their dreams and be their best not only for themselves but for their special someone as well. Now, if s/he is not inspiring you in any way, then ask yourself why.

3. You do not see yourself spending the rest of your life with him/her

If you find yourself daydreaming about your future but you cannot see your partner in it, then it says a lot about what you feel for him/her. Subconsciously, you hope you can get away from your present relationship.

4. There is that longing to be in love

Being in love is one of the most beautiful feelings, especially if it is reciprocated. If you have never felt those fluttering butterflies in your stomach with your partner, then you probably have never been in love with him/her.

5. You may be content, but you are not really happy

She may be pretty and smart, or he may be responsible and successful, but if his/her presence only gives you superficial happiness, then it may not be love.

6. You know in your heart that s/he is not the one

If right from the start you have this intuition that s/he is not the one for you, then your gut-feeling may be right. It is either you do not really want him/her to be part of your life for some reasons or you just have the gift of discernment.

7. You still look for a potential partner in others

Sure, it is unfair to your current boyfriend/girlfriend if you still secretly check others out. However, maybe the problem here is not your faithfulness but the real condition of your heart. If you are still searching for the “one” even if you are already in a relationship, then it is time to give your partner the freedom s/he deserves.

8. The person can feel it and s/he ends up insecure

Are you annoyed with your partner’s constant jealousy and doubting of your sincerity? Maybe you have never given him/her any assurance that is why s/he is insecure about your relationship. If you truly love a person, you will not get tired affirming him/her that you are sure with your commitment.

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