Have you ever felt that things are not going right in your relationship? Yet you tend to slide the issue aside, thinking that probably that’s how all relationships are meant to be.


Many times people keep giving their relationship a chance in the hope that things will get better with time.

Though, it’s not easy to admit that your relationship is failing and is ruined beyond repair, but if the relationship starts to impact you mentally as well as physically, it may be better to call it off than carry the baggage along.

Here are some signs you should consider as red flags:

1. You feel drained by your partner

Being with your partner should energize you and not drain you. If you start to feel free when you’re away from your partner, it’s a danger sign. When you reach a point where you feel toxic being in their presence, all you will notice is what is bad about them. Most people will be in denial and blame work or tiredness. But deep down you will know that something is not right.

2. You don’t trust each other anymore

Love can only be built on a foundation of trust. Most couples will not admit that they don’t trust each other after a point in their relationship but their behaviour will tell otherwise. If your partner monitors who you cat with, gets jealous if someone compliments you or asks exact details about your whereabouts, it’s time to raise the red flag. If you won’t build trust, it will be the beginning of the end

3. You keep apologizing often

If one person is a bully in a relationship, the other has to keep apologizing for anything and everything. It’s a horrible thing to experience and it’s disrespectful. It will destroy your self-value. This leads to you becoming another person and not even being yourself. There’s no reason why you should be spending your life with them.

4. You’re always monitoring your words and actions

If you find yourself thinking about what you should say and how you should say continually, it means that you are trying very hard to keep someone happy. You are worried that they might leave you if you didn’t do as they like. If you are facing a situation like this, let them go.

5. They put you down all the time

People with low self-esteem will try to put you down most of the time. If your partner is consistently reminding you of what they have done for you and how they can very easily find a “better” partner, it’s enough for you to realize that you shouldn’t be with them.

6. You feel alone even when you’re with them

If you feel this way then you should know that this person isn’t the right one for you. You have to find someone who feels happy in your company and reciprocates your feelings.