Looking on from the outside, leaving a toxic relationship should be a piece of cake. After all, everything seems to be pretty clear.
1. “He will become the man I need”
The number one reason women remain in bad relationships is a hope that has no logical background. Even though there’s absolutely no sign that your boyfriend might change, for some reason you really do believe that this will happen.
You expect him to magically wake up one morning and realize that he should stop hurting you. People don’t change unless they have a desire to do it themselves. Basically, you’re waiting for a miracle that is unlikely to happen.
2. “I will regret my decision”
What if he turns out to be the love of your life and you never manage to get over him? These and similar questions run through your head every time you think about breaking up.
Let me tell you something – this is exactly what your toxic boyfriend wants you to think. If you do leave him, it will be the best choice you’ve ever made and you won’t regret it for a second.
3. “He is just emotionally broken”
He is not giving you crumbs of his love and attention because he is incapable of loving. You keep finding excuses for his behavior and trying to dig deeper under his cold exterior. No, you won’t find a vulnerable heart who loves you there.
You’ll find nothing. There is no other part of his personality – he is just like that and this needs to stop being the reason why you stay with him.
4. Settling for less vs. dying alone
For you, there are only two options in life. You can either leave this guy and die alone or keep on settling for less than you deserve.
So, you assume that it’s better to be with someone than to face loneliness. This man has convinced you that you’re not meant to be loved and without him, you’ll be forever single. If you pluck up the courage to leave, you will definitely find a man who deserves you.
5. “I will be his hero”
Let’s be honest: you would probably walk away from your boyfriend but you feel responsible for him. You think that you’re the only one who can save him. The only one who can drag him out of his darkness and show him the light.
It’s not your duty to fix broken men. It’s not your responsibility to sort his life out, help him grow up, or fight his demons.
