Are you rushing into things with him? 7 signs you need to slow down



It’s tempting to want to throw caution to the wind and race into a hot new relationship. Why wait? Life is short!

Well, the truth is that if you rush too much, you could make your relationship even shorter! Here are signs you need to stop for a breath.

After all, if it’s truly meant to be, your new guy isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.

1. You’re feeling uncomfortable

Yes, you like the guy and you want to be with him, but you just feel that you can’t be your true self. It’s like you’re still trying to find your feet and process what’s going on, and you should be taking the time to do that. Developing that complete and total comfort with someone takes time. You can’t rush it.

2. You’av got verbal diarrhea

You sometimes feel like you’re telling him TMI but you just can’t stop. You’ve told him all about your career dreams, childhood, and even all your dirty little secrets… and yet you’ve only been dating for two weeks. Slow down a bit so you can cultivate a bit of mystery.

3. You’av jumped into the sack already

If you’ve only been on one or two dates and you’ve already had sex, there’s no shame in that. BUT, if you want to have a real relationship that’s serious and committed, it sure helps to know that he wants the same things before you jump into bed. Otherwise, you have to backtrack once you’re dressed in your clothes again and it can make things weird.

4. You’av called him your boyfriend

You’ve only been dating for a short while, yet you called him your boyfriend. Um, yikes! Not only does this give him the impression that you’re chasing him for a relationship but it can make you guys exclusive when you don’t even know each other. That’s a recipe for disaster.

5. You’re surprised by him

You thought you knew him, but then you find out that he’s considering taking a full-time gig in another state or that he has a sibling you knew nothing about. What the hell? It can feel weird and this is a sign that you guys haven’t really taken the time to get to know each other.

6. You’re blocking out those red flags

This is a clear sign you’ve rushed into the relationship. You want it to work at all costs, even if that means ignoring deal-breakers. What’s the point? You’re going to have to deal with them sooner or later.

7. You’re dating a different version of him

The problem with rushing into a relationship with someone new is that you don’t really know what they’re really like. The result is that you’re basically dating the idea of them in your head. See how this can get messy really fast?

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