When you first start a relationship, it might seem like you know everything about your partner and future is so clear, but as the glow of new found love fades, with it also might fade the assurance you once had.
Relationship experts have now been able to discover some questions that will help you know if your relationship has what it take stand the test of time or not.
As mundane as the questions might seem on the surface, seeking answers with your partner goes a long way to tell if you are on the same wavelength with regards to your future.
Here’s a list of them below:
1. How long did your previous relationship last?
When it comes to dating and your dating experience, someone’s past relationships can give you a glimpse of their dating patterns. For example, you hear that your partner seems to only make it to the two-year mark. When you ask why, it’s because their partners want to get married. This can reveal a lot of information.
2. What is your timeline for the future
Of course, not everyone wants to get married or have kids. But if you do and think your partner may as well, this is one to consider asking them. While some people who want both have milestone goals in their heads as to when they want to get married and/or have kids, others are more go-with-the-flow without hard-and-fast deadlines.
3. How do you feel about finance?
Money is a factor in romantic relationships, and often a big one. Next to sex, money is the biggest generator of problems, arguments, and resentment in long-term relationships, so it’s good to ask your partner. A disparity in income can mean struggling about who pays for what, or whose income determines your lifestyle. Different financial habits (one likes to save, the other spends more or doesn’t keep track) can become a source of arguments.
4. How do you handle anger and other emotions?
Emotions are part of every relationship, and not just the love-centric ones. We all get upset from time to time, but ask your significant other, ‘How do you handle anger and other emotions? If you are usually good at diffusing each other’s anger, and being supportive through times of grief or pain, your emotional bond will deepen as time goes on. If your tendency is to react to each other and make the situation more volatile and destructive, you need to correct that problem before you have a further future together.
5. How important is sex to you?
According to experts, if you can’t communicate verbally, you also won’t be able to communicate physically once the initial passion wears off. You need to learn how to communicate about sex, your wants and needs, your likes and dislikes; because your sex life will change as you stay together, and you need to be able to negotiate the changes with non-competitive communication.
6. How close are you to family and friends?
The character of a person is determined to a large extent by how much they relate with their friends and family. If one of you is from a very close knit family and spends a lot of time with his/her friends and the other doesn’t, then it needs to be clear from the beginning how much time you will be spending with them during holidays and how you intend to navigate through special occasions so there is no misunderstanding.
