1. They come on too strong
Do you feel overwhelmed by their interest in you? If so, they may be love-bombing you when they shower you with excessive affection and adoration. If their love for you seems like it’s too much too soon, chances are their feelings are inauthentic and may even be a manipulative attempt at keeping you hooked. In this case, the sparks are likely to fizzle out just as fast as they started.
2. They’re exceptionally charming
“Charming” is usually seen as a positive way to describe a date. However, charm can actually be a red flag. Often, charm is a combination of calculated one-liners, gentlemanly gestures, and compliments that are disingenuous and may be recycled over and over with each person they date. Take it as a warning sign if their charm seems too good to be true.
3. They overshare
4. They’re uncomfortable with opening up
Though oversharing can be a major red flag, being uncomfortable sharing any emotions or opinions can also be an overlooked red flag. If your date appears visibly uncomfortable when you ask about their life or share how you’re feeling, this may be a sign that they’re not looking for an intimate relationship. Instead, they may prefer something more superficial. If you’re dating with the hopes of building a deep connection with someone, this person may not be the one for you.
5. They’re inconsistent
Begging for a date one minute, silent for weeks, and then popping up again out of nowhere: if this sounds like your dating partner, this is a red flag worth noting. Even though life happens and schedules get busy sometimes, if they’re trying to get to know you, they’ll make a consistent effort to—period.
6. They check their phone—a lot
These days, scrolling through our phones is so normalized, but this should not be taken as acceptable behavior on dates, especially when you’re just getting to know each other. Not only is phone-checking bad manners on a date, but it also shows their lack of care and interest in you. While it’s one thing to peek at a notification here and there, it’s a red flag if their time with you is spent absorbed in social media and scrolling through a
7. They’re forgetful
If your date forgets details about you, such as basic information from your dating profile or from past conversations, this is problematic for two reasons: at best, this may mean that they’re too distracted and busy to remember details about you; at worst, they may be juggling too many dates and are unable to keep details straight between each person they’re meeting. Either way, this is a warning sign that they may not be able to give you the attention you deserve.
