8 benefits of being single in your 30’s



By the time you reach your 30s, many of your friends will have paired off. Some will even have children.
And while family life certainly has its merits, not everyone is ready for it at the same time—if ever.
Whether you’re happy to stay single at 30 or are looking forward to eventually meeting your match, here’s what’s truly amazing about being independent during this time in your life.
The following are 8 benefits of being single in your 30s.

1. You have more time to focus on your career

In your 30s, you have a better perception of who you are than you did when you were in your 20s. That means you’re probably pretty clear on what you want career-wise, and being single ensures you have the time to put work in toward your goals. This is a great time to build your empire without the time commitments that come with a relationship.

2. You’re more mature and less tolerant of drama

Men and women in their 30s have done a lot of growing up. They are more mature and less tolerant of the drama that many people in their 20’s enjoy and even thrive on. This creates a dating environment that is more relaxed and enjoyable with fewer games.

3. You can focus more on your friends and family

Often times, people get into relationships and start to neglect other people who play important roles in their lives. When you’re single at 30, you can use your time to invest in close relationships and develop even stronger ties with them. Or, focus on broadening your horizons: Use this time to meet new people and socialize with a variety of different individuals.

4. Your confidence is at an all-time high

It’s common in your 20s to be a little unsure of yourself. But when you enter your 30s, you regain momentum in your ability to exude confidence about decision-making in your life. The self-assured attitude applies to dating, but also other crucial areas like setting boundaries with friends and family, getting what you want at work, and making lifestyle choices like where you want to live.

5. You can differentiate between sex and love

This skill—often developed with age—saves you a lot of time and energy. In our thirties, we are less impulsive and less driven by sex. That doesn’t mean you’re not interested in sex, but you now have the ability to appreciate a fun, no-strings-attached relationship in a way you maybe couldn’t in your 20s.

6. You’re less reckless

If you got yourself into some sticky situations dating in your 20s, you’re not alone. Being single in your 20s can be a bit dangerous, as we tend to have that ‘YOLO’ mentality. However, in your 30s you are a bit less likely to indulge in risky behavior, such as drug use and unsafe sex.

7. There’s time for a life outside work

Let’s face it, relationships require individuals to invest a lot of time and energy in them and make it harder engage in leisure activities. When you’re single, you have more free time to put into your hobbies and self care activities. Eating healthier, working out, taking fitness classes, or even picking up an artistic activity such as painting could be done because your schedule isn’t so cramped.

8. You know which red flags to look for

By the time you hit 30, your BS meter has maxed out. You’ve identified the red flags and you see them coming from a mile away. If you do want to date, now’s the perfect time to put all the dating lessons you learned in your 20s into practice.

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