How to deal with loneliness in your marriage



When you get married, you think you’ll never get a lonely moment in your life again because you have a partner, but that is not always the case.

Loneliness affects many couples worldwide, and one partner, especially the woman, can feel emotionally abandoned. Marriage and loneliness are almost opposites, but loneliness is natural for many couples.

You might be wondering why you or your partner feels lonely in your marriage, perhaps the love you shared has started fading, or the connection you once had isn’t there anymore.

Below are some common causes of loneliness in marriages and how to deal with them.

1. Hectic schedules

Does one of you come home after the other is asleep or leave before the other wakes up? If so, this can be the primary cause of loneliness in the marriage. Hectic schedules can make you distant from your partner and lose touch with one another. The distance continues to widen as the behavior becomes constant, and it would reach a point when the marriage can’t be saved again.

When you and your partner have incompatible schedules, you can wreak havoc on your marital bond, but only if you allow it. Of course, compromise is essential for every relationship, but don’t let it come down to whose job is more stressful or essential. Instead, discuss your schedule with your partner so you both can know the next step to take.

2. Fear of your spouse

If your partner is physically or emotionally abusive, and you live in fear, you spend a great deal of time avoiding them and living in loneliness. In addition, during the early stage of your marriage, your abusive partner may have isolated you from friends and family, so you may feel like you have no one to turn to. If you are married to an abusive partner, be vocal about it and seek help so it won’t affect you.

3. No sexual intimacy

Couples that rarely share sexual moments are bound to be lonely. Even little displays of affection like a good morning kiss or a good hug can go a long way in rekindling the love you have for your partner. If you don’t get intimate with your partner often, it can cause loneliness and other problems in the long run. Now that you know what’s causing your loneliness, start trying to rekindle that sexual flame you once had with your partner.

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