Most people are eager to jump into a relationship without considering its perils and hardships.
Relationships aren’t just flowers, kisses and cuddles but a constant battle of trust and understanding.
Life brings unexpected, difficult situations that may cause your relationship to crumble down, leaving little or no space for reconciliation.
Love is romantic yet complicated and there’s so much we can learn from it every single day.
In account of this, here are some relationship truths you’ll eventually learn the hard way.
1. Falling in love with the idea of a relationship
Your partner may look at you from a perspective that’s totally different from you. They may tend to conceptualise you or fall in love with the idea of what you can become, instead of falling in love with the real you. Getting to know a person and falling in love with them actually takes a lot of time, sometimes years. You may strike a familiarity with the person and have an urge to love them, but in reality, you’re just in love with the idea of being in a relationship.
2. Wanting a relationship for selfish reasons
Filling the empty void within yourself with love is a completely valid point. Wanting to be in a relationship to feel happy, emotional, cared for and protected is alright but only focusing on your happiness isn’t. It’s very likely that you consider your happiness from the relationship to be the same for your partner when in reality, it isn’t.
3. You will get hurt
There’s no guarantee of a perfect person and a perfect relationship. Your partner who may be decent, good, trustworthy and very supportive may hurt you at one point in time. That is understandable but what’s wrong is you formulating them as toxic because they hurt you once or twice. Relationships thrive on healthy forgiveness because no one is perfect; we all are allowed to make mistakes. Making amends to resolve what you should focus on, not the hurt.
4. Feeling in love all the time
You may not feel madly in love all the time. There will be moments where you want to get away from the relationship because handling its responsibilities and problems can get too much. And at times like these, you have to accept that relationships will always be a combination of the good and bad. You both just have to navigate your way through all the problems.
5. Love isn’t the only thing important in a relationship
No matter how compatible you are with your partner, problems are bound to arise if you both solely depend on love. There are other important aspects in a relationship that are equally necessary, such as compromise, trust, understanding, support, honesty and communication. These strong pillars support the basics of a relationship. So, if you’re in a delusion that you only need love to make a relationship work, you’d better get out of it soon.
