Marriage is a huge step in life and could be one of the riskiest one since you have no idea what the future holds.
It is like getting into something with your eyes wide shut no knowing exactly what is right and what is not!
Is a two way thing and there is no way you can handle everything if there is not enough trust and communication.
Considering all that, proposal for a man is an ongoing process of many months of preparation.
This could turn into the best thing that has ever happened in their life or the biggest rejection.
So, there are things they need to take into account before posing the question and here are those things.
1. Talking to your parents and friends
For sure, his friends and family are not the only people that he will be talking to, there is a lot more for him to investigate. He needs to talk to your friend and your family because he needs to have their approval as well, right?! Plus he needs to have an idea of whether from your friends and family perspective it is the right time for you or not. Whether they are going to get the YES from you or not. What kind of ring you may want to wear so he would not make the wrong choice! Everything needs to be perfect for that perfect moment!
2. What he wants to say
He has an idea of how he is going to propose to you or better said, he has so many ideas! There are many scenarios he has been working on, trying to remember how you reacted to different proposals in the past and which one was your favourite one. Whether he is going to do it in front of all people in public or a gathering of the people that you only like. Whether it is going to be a private event only the two of you. Maybe leaving it on the pillow or just kneeling down right in front of you in your favorite spot in the city!
3. Plan
Now that he has decided which option is the right one for you, he will plan it! Depending on how much work the whole thing will take, he is going to plan every single part of it from the scratch. Maybe creating a list of pros and cons, putting all the options that might work out and in case that does not, there would be an alternative. Everything needs to be planned in a way that will make your heart melt and make you believe that by saying YES you will be making the best decision of your life.
4. Rehearse
This would be one of the most adorable stages of the process. Have you seen how men try to get ready for that big moment in movies?! How they are all so jittery and nervous?! The same thing would probably happen in his case. He wants to say the right thing, make the right move so that it will all be perfect as you have always imagined it to be. You might even find him sitting in front of the mirror and asking himself to marry him! How crazy does that sound?! But he is doing that all because of you.
5. Pay attention
From now on, he will be focused completely on whatever you say. Every single world that is being articulated can be a small hint of what you will like and what you may not! Whenever you pass by a jewelry store, he stays right there with you to see which one you would like to have. He might even play something wedding related on purpose to see what you have to say about it. What are your likes and dislikes. Any little hints that can make things more accurate.
6. Buy the ring
And of course, once he has an idea of what you like, he will go to buy it. Probably right after you are at work or somewhere else but with him, he will sneak out and try to get the best option and the best size for your finger. Everything needs to fit perfectly. It all needs to look like the dream to you and something that you can write home about. What he needs is for you to tell the story to your mutual friends or even possible your future kids with a puffed chest. One of a kind.
7. Find a hiding place
This can be the toughest thing if you guys are living together since we, women, generally love to clean and go through stuff because everything needs to be under our control! He needs to find a place that he is sure you will never think of checking. Maybe give it to a friend so he can keep it for him or to have it in his pocket with himself all the time. That hiding process is more difficult than what you may think! He needs to predict your next move to be able to succeed! Good luck with that.
8. Make a backup plan
There is always a need of a plan B when you are carrying out one of the most important and sensitive projects of a lifetime and this one is of vital importance so many even a plan C can help to get the control of things easier?! What if you break up with him. What if you say NO! These are few of the nightmares they are going to live with and it will be with them until it is all water under the bridge!
