Deciding whether or not to break up with a friend can feel like a roller-coaster ride of emotions.
Yet when considered logically, it could clearly be the healthiest choice.
Don’t assume that friends must always be forever, at times it simply can’t be fixed or reconciled.
Sometimes you’ve got to consider your own long-term happiness and keep your social circle lean.
It can be a painful experience a friendship changes for the worst, but there’s no need to prolong the hurt.
If your relationship possesses any of these eight indicators, it may be time gracefully part ways!
1. You’re making all the effort to keep in contact
Yes, life can get hectic and we all can be bogged down with busyness from time to time, but that doesn’t mean you should be the one making all the effort to keep in contact. That’s not fair, plain and simple. Friendships can’t be one-sided; the effort must be reciprocated in order for each other to feel appreciated and supported.
2. You feel as if you’re always competing with them
When you continuously feel a sense of competition — or worse, jealousy — whenever you tell a friend about your latest accomplishments, it’s time to cut the cord. Because at the end of the day, a real friend should want to celebrate your good news, not keep score by whipping out a list of their own.
3. You don’t feel comfortable confiding in them anymore
Just as with any other healthy relationship, friendships also need a strong foundation of trust. You should feel 100 percent comfortable being emotionally vulnerable around each other, without having to worry about the possibility of judgment or ridicule. True friends should be there to lift you up when you’re down and make you feel empowered by your decisions instead of leaving you with a cloud of doubt hanging over your head.
4. There’s more drama than there is friendship
Sure, we all love a little dose of drama-filled reality television every now and then, but when it starts to become your everyday life . . . well, that’s a different story. Not only is gossip petty, but it can also be pretty vicious and hurtful, no matter who the nasty talk is geared toward. Plus, isn’t life too short to be spending precious time with “friends” who find satisfaction in negatively talking about others?
5. Your friends don’t want you to have other friends
Selfish much? Um, no thanks. If your group of friends is making you feel guilty for having other friends, do yourself a favor and walk away without looking back. This type of possessiveness is immature — not to mention flat-out wrong — and usually stems from someone having insecurities that you might find better friends . . . which you most likely will.
6. They bring out the worst in you
We all need to allow ourselves to let loose every once in a while. But if you’re consistently left in a poorer state after hanging out than where you were before (read: always hungover, broke, or facing consequences), then take these notorious bad moments as bright red flags. Good friends shouldn’t leave you feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally drained, but instead recharged and rejuvenated.
7. There was some sort of betrayal
Whether it be in the form of making moves on your SO or catching a friend spreading some pretty mean things about you, betrayal is one of the most blatant alarms for toxic relationships. My advice? Get out, ASAP.
8. Time is the only thing keeping the friendship together
Despite how many years you’ve spent investing in a friendship, when it’s all said and done, time can’t be the only thing to keep a bond intact. Why? Well, think about this: the amount of time you continue to spend on a relationship that isn’t bringing you happiness is the very same time that could be spent fostering a much more rewarding one.
No matter how you look at it, your friends are ultimately a reflection of who you are. That said, if you don’t have anything in common anymore, it’s truly OK to fly the nest and move on. This just simply means you’re evolving as an individual, which is what we all are striving for, right?
