Nowadays we’ve become a fast-paced culture.
We rush to work, run through the drive-through for fast food, race from one activity to the next and we hardly stop to breathe.
Unfortunately with such a fast pace, we’ve become an impatient culture. We want everything to happen right away.
We want overnight shipping, instant video streaming and also demand the highest speed internet. Can it also be said that we also expect that love should come quickly and easily?
Do too many of us who’ve been born and bred in this fast-paced world think love-at-first-sight is the new norm?
Perhaps it’s time for us to evaluate some of the reasons why love at first sight can be a dangerous thing:
1. We don’t have time to test character
When we rush into a relationship, we may not take the time to really get to know the person, especially their inner qualities. It’s easy for anyone to put up a facade for a short while, but it’s only after time and trials that a person’s true colors shine through. If we don’t take the time to test another’s character, we may get into difficult or even dangerous situations.
2. We get caught up in feelings
Everyone enjoys the physical rush of a new relationship. And it’s all too easy to get caught up in those tingling wonderful emotions and let them dictate our actions instead of operating with sound logic and thinking. That magical quality of attraction, while nice, can lead to rash and sometimes foolish decisions.
3. We neglect a solid foundation of friendship
When a couple jumps into a relationship based on feelings and physical attraction, that often comes at the detriment of forming a friendship first. Without a friendship acting as glue, we’re left with a shallow relationship when the feelings and physical attraction fades.
4. We let infatuation dictate our commonalities
It’s all too easy to put aside our own dreams and values during our giddy in-love phase. But when the reality of life takes over, we don’t want to find ourselves with someone who doesn’t respect our desires or values or someone who doesn’t enjoy the same activities that we do.
5. We overlook potential problems
Every couple will have challenges at some point, disagreements, conflicts that need addressing. But when we fall fast and furiously in love, we’re more prone to overlook problems, to minimize differences, or to make excuses for behavior. We gloss over issues or let them pile up until eventually they seem insurmountable.
6. We have a false euphoria
The love-at-first-sight mentality makes us think our relationship is special and different than others. That then leads us to believe that our love is invincible, that it’s meant to be, and that it will last forever without much effort. Such euphoria ignores the hard work that it takes to make a relationship last for the long haul.
